Moved into a new neighborhood. Felt the neighbors next door were snobby (very sbutely) to me. Then some brand new neighbors moved in and made friends with the 'snobby' neighbors... Neither of them really liked me and were only nice to my face, if they even ackowleged me. Normal to feel hurt?
2007-03-24 11:25:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes!
We all have a strong need to be accepted. Rejection (in your case, being snubbed by the neighbors) is definitely not a good feeling. But take comfort that the problem is not you. Some people are just not that nice and hospitable (their loss, not yours). Just continue to be civil....live and let live.
2007-03-24 11:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by tin2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I had the same happen, although we are the most normal family on the block. It might be better to not have people so close by be in your business, because what is worse than being slighted is having people mind your business which can be a different set of problems within itself. In most neighborhoods, I think people do tend to keep to themselves and that is a good thing, especially when issues arise.
2007-03-24 18:30:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know i was nervous when i moved into this neighborhood that i would be slighted by everyone because i was single. most married women dont like divorcees near their family, especially husbands. but i'm an extrovert and i didnt let it stop me from waving hi to everyone and anyone. then they just kind of got use to me. i'm the crazy woman who does rain dances in the back yard. i am the one who would keep their dog in my yeard spoiling it till they came to claim it, i'm the one who walks outside in the early morning in her granny nite gown (any man who thinks that's hot deserves a kick in the head), i'm the one who gave everyone expensive chocolates on halloween. so i became friends with all of them! i just had to play dumb and not let any gossip get to me,because more than likely it would be in my head. i know each everyone of them was so curious as to how i support myself lol so i'd do my part and let them know. one neighbor even homeschools like mine, and i pay her son to do my yard. one neighbor and i have a friendly compitition on who's yard can be the greenest and most manicured. an another neighbor was so kind, during a thunderstorm he put one of his one tarps on my car because i left the window down. and the one who competes with me with our lawns, he and his wife were a life saver when my son electricuted himself (he's ok now). you know the next time you have a bbq, invite them over. make it casual and say, 'hey i made too much, why dont you all come over'. with bbq, it smelling so good, noone will refuse! good luck!
2007-03-24 19:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course but maybe they are rude and you don't want to get to know them anyway. Just keep being nice and that might make them come around and be nice to you and not so snobby.
2007-03-24 18:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep it's human nature to want to be liked. When your rejected it is a blow to your ego.
Don't sweat though, If your an upstanding neighbor the ones worth getting to know will warm up to you.
2007-03-24 18:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by wildwillyinva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone wants acceptance, but keep in mind...we are all individuals. Do you really need a snob's approval. I think not. Maybe they aren't trying to be rude..maybe they just are those type of people.
2007-03-24 18:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by 2qt2bhere 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal to feel hurt by this. Why don't you give them some reason to like you?
2007-03-24 18:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get all your rowdy relatives & show those stuck up dweebs a thing or two about hospitality!!!!
2007-03-24 18:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by beenabytch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah id be hurt too.
2007-03-24 18:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋