should i forgive her or forget her? we have two children 2 and 5.
2007-03-24 11:16:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was in a very similar situation. My wife cheated on me during a drunken girls weekend.. she denied it but her friends (later on) alluded to what really happend... i kinda let it go and things were ok for about 7 months.. then she started veering off again and had an affair.. i found out about it - -had evidence and she still lied about it.. i divorced her. I had no choice.. it would have maybe been different if she would have admitted to it.. I had a P.I. with pics and stuff of her and him and she still lied... emails from him (graphic) and she still lied. I dont know what to tell you man but if she did it once.. she WILL do it again.. too many women out there are quick to say men do all the cheating.. that's a friggin lie.. Women cheat just as much... be careful my friend.. if you think you can work it out then that's up to you.. but if she starts acting weird again .. leaving and making up stupid excuses.. have her followed... I have children involved also.. but i knew i could never trust this woman again.. all she did is lie and still tries to lie about things 2 years later.. it's incredible.. Oh and she also took the same route of acting like nothing really happened... good lord... how could you coldly cheat on someone you love,, lie about it, be deceiptful and think you did nothing wrong!? Mental? Im not religious but there is an excerpt from Proverds... that goes sort of like this... "The Harlot wipes her chin,, smiles and says she has done nothing wrong"
2007-03-24 11:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by drew71670 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may seem like she doesn't care but deep down she will always have that guilty gut feeling forced her into telling you to begin with. Part of loving someone is forgiving them for only being human and making mistakes. You can only hope that she has learned from her mistake and you have to keep in mind that you have to put your children first by never discussing this matter in front of your children because once a child knows that you and their mother are having problems they will try to fix it themselves anyway they can and where you have one that is 5 they are at that age where they pick up on any tention between you and your spouse.
2007-03-24 18:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by rebelprincess6379 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what do you mean she doesn't seem to care that she is wrong? Does she just tell you and walk off and act like everything is back to normal or? Well, I suggest that you talk to her about it and if you are unable to forgive her then leave her cz you deserve better anyway! Don't let her treat you like that and act like nothing is wrong. You two are equal and how would she like it if you messed around?!?
2007-03-24 18:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by bellavita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, dude, if she isn't utterly downfallen and ashamed and contrite her betrayal of you didn't mean a thing and she will do it again and again. Document it. Get what you need for a divorce, then take the kids from her on the grounds of moral turpitude. Talk to a lawyer. You have got to lose her but make sure you don't lose your kids. Talk to a lawyer....
2007-03-24 19:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget her... shes not worth it!!! Definitely be apart of your children's lives because they did nothing wrong and still deserve you. If she can cheat on you then she doesn't love you especially if she doesn't seem to care that she even hurt you. If she has that kind of disregard for your feelings then its bound to happen again.
2007-03-24 18:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by slimbuzkit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she shows no remorse, u won't be able to forgive her. if she doesn't care she did wrong, than she isn't going to stop doing it, as she has no guilt. u need to divorce her, because it really won't work for u, if u invest anymore into this relationship, because she simply doesn't care and doesn't see it as being wrong. she has no morals, and its not her getting hurt here, if it were her she would see how wrong it really is. but she is happy, has a new thing going on, feels good to be desired, but show no concern for your poor broken heart. get rid of her if your smart.
2007-03-24 18:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a question only you can answer. You say she doesn't care. The question is...do you? Forgiving when someone is in regret is fine...forgiving someone that doesn't care...will only do it again. Now you decide.
2007-03-24 18:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget her she would you if you had cheated i don't know whats wrong with people both men and women are cheating more than ive ever known
2007-03-24 18:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget her... we knew a guy who forgave and she actually would call and ask him to "come home later" or stay somewhere else because she had a date over. WHAT?
2007-03-24 18:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by lucki female 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hard offended her and she thinks the only way to hurt you is by sleeping arround and imforming you about it.please what ever you have done to her try to apologise or you may lose your wife to some who does deserve her.Be wise......
2007-03-24 18:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by ebiyedinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋