I think I messed up.?

Question

About a few months ago I was with my ex and we had been together for about 4 years and I just feel out of love with him and didnt want to string him along anymore than I may have. But the problem is that I realize now that he is the one for me, and it hurts. I still have feelings for him now. He treats me the way a woman would love to be treated and I threw it away. I just dont know how to talk to him. I dont know how to say anything to him. We talk occasionally- and he did suggest something about having an open relationship before getting serious agin but never mentioned it again. I tried to ask if I can come over to see him and he reply saying he is to busy and maybe another time. I just feel so bad. All this time I was looking for something not realizing it was right infront of me. I want to tell him how I feel but I am afraid to do so. He doesn't want to talk to me on the phone( we text) or see me because he said it will hurt. But everyday that goes by I am thinking about him

He is perfect for me- He is decent, he goes to church, treats me right, romantic, affectionate, and most of all he loves me- we'll atleast he did, maybe he still do but I wont know. I just try to change my mind so I wont cry but I know I messed up, and I wont get him back because I am afraid of what he would say and also there is a little bit of pride in there. I just dont know what to do. Should I try to reconcile or just move on?

Yeah I would but every time I say I want to speak to him- He says maybe some other time. So I will just move on I dont want to bother waste his time. But thank you all for the responses.

Answer 1

just keep trying to talk to him and keep asking if you can come over. and if that doesn't work......just flat out tell him the truth!! becuz if he doesn't want to talk or see you becuz it would hurt.....then he wants you back too!

Answer 2

About a few months ago I was with my ex and we had been together for about 4 years and I just feel out of love with him and didnt want to string him along anymore than I may have. But the problem is that I realize now that he is the one for me, and it hurts. I still have feelings for him now. He treats me the way a woman would love to be treated and I threw it away. I just dont know how to talk to him. I dont know how to say anything to him. We talk occasionally- and he did suggest something about having an open relationship before getting serious agin but never mentioned it again. I tried to ask if I can come over to see him and he reply saying he is to busy and maybe another time. I just feel so bad. All this time I was looking for something not realizing it was right infront of me. I want to tell him how I feel but I am afraid to do so. He doesn't want to talk to me on the phone( we text) or see me because he said it will hurt. But everyday that goes by I am thinking about him

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wow sounds perfect!!! Girl i did that and i can get him back easily my ' boy ' loves me to much to throw me away......... but well we are not actually together together right now.... he just knows i still like him but well u might want to say " can we have another chance now i know i really love you "

hope i helped!!

Answer 3

Pride and money are the two biggest reasons why people have problems in relationships. YOU said you really like him, and want to be with him, so get over your PRIDE. In every relationship, there will be fights, and the sooner you learn to let the pride go once in a while, then the easier it will be for you and your partner to get over the fights, and the same will go for him too. But if you cannot swallow your pride once in a while, then the alternative is to be alone or continually fighting with someone.
Try calling him, and arrange to go over, and or just go over, and show up. Say, "Look, I know you are busy, and don't want to see me, but I have to tell you this in person......" then tell him exactly how you feel, how you think about him, and how you would like another chance. Don't let him interrupt you until you say your whole piece, don't hold back.
As the old saying goes, "Nothing ventured, nothing gained."
And if you don't do it, you know you will always think about it, and always remember, what might have happened if you had.....so risk alittle, give alittle, and try alittle. Live you LIFE, not live your pride.

Answer 4

I think you should at least give it a try. Write him a letter, and explain all of your feelings, so take your time, and put it all on paper. Now if he contacts you, and whats to try again, fine, and if he does not, then you have to move on, at least you know you tried!

Answer 5

Just go round and tell him how you really feel, if it hurts him 2 speak on the phone and to your face then he still has feelings for you. What have you got to lose. good luck

Answer 6

try again. Suck it up, open your mouth and tell him. Tell him EXACTLY how you feel. If it doesn't work, then you have got to move on. You can't have a relationship, a good one, without communicating. Good Luck, I know it's hard.

Answer 7

Write him and tell him what you've shared with us. Send your letter by registered mail; that way you'll know if he receives it. Then wait.

His reponse will let you know all you need to know.