I have to practically ask how I look just to get a nice compliment when I look good for him - Y is that? He keeps saying he still loves me and is still very attracted to me..is it cause he's just comfortable and doesnt feel the need to have to compliment the wife anymore???
2007-03-24 10:52:37 · 13 answers · asked by Kim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't take it so personally, men and women don't think the same - just tell him you would appreciate it if he would compliment you more often, explain why it's important to you.
2007-03-24 10:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but that sounds strange I have been married almost 8yrs now and there isn't a day that goes by I do not tell my wife she is sexy, gorgeous, loving,kind or all of the above
and then some. If this is something that is bothering you then you must ask him why he doesn't compliment you anymore.
One thought and I do NOT intend to be rude but is there a weight gain problem? This could be one reason he doesn't and he doesn't want to start because you may start to think he is okay with it? If this is an issue for you this is probably the main reason he has stopped the complimenting!
God Bless and Good Luck if you got love men compliment
2yrs crap your still newlyweds!
ASK HIM WHY!
2007-03-24 11:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know why he stopped giving you compliments, but I can I can tell you part of the reason why I have a hard time giving compliments to my wife. I'm sure I'm partly at fault here, but sorry, I can't get myself to lie ok...
1) She keeps complimenting me about my body, and I know I don't have a super awesome body, but I try to not eat too much sh1t and I try to stay in shape.
It's not that I don't want to compliment her but why is she trying so hard to keep me from having anything good things to say? She is in the category called "morbid obesity". And I know she tries this and that, and I still hug her, kiss her and am intimate with her, but that's NOT because I'm attracted.
2) She shows little interest and involvement in the things I like to do. I would love for the two of us to garden together, but she doesn't join me in my efforts ever AND she prefers to get the lettuce from the supermarket instead the one from my garden, so what kind of message does that send me?
3) She has a total addiction to blowing money, charging cards, etc... Now she has made a LOT of progress in that area, and I trully appreciate that, but I still don't feel like the root cause has been dealt with and she is just really trying hard to control herself, because we're in a lot of $ trouble. I mean I feel like she's holding it all in for now, but at some point she might not be able to control it anymore and she might just go out there and spend a ton of money for useless crap.
She does a lot of good things and she's a wonderful wife in so many ways. She's a great cook, a good teacher, pretty good mom (would be better if she could control her temper), and I compliment her about those things, but I know she wants to be complimented about her looks... Well, I have a very very hard time with her looks ok. let's see... the word "mortified" would just about sum it up. If she would lose 100 lbs I would worship her!.... ok, I would be extremely happy if she would only lose 50. 75 would be perfect.
2007-03-26 07:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you hit the nail on the head. He is comfortable, and probably don't think he needs to say it because he thinks you already know how he feels about you.
My husband and I have been together for 7 years, and he still flirts with me...lol as crazy as that sounds. He always tells me I look good (even when I just get out of bed) and that I smell "terrific". I have to admit, it's me who forgets to compliment him. So I guess I am looking at this from the other side of the fence so to say. Between long hours at work and the kids homework, making dinner, the kids nightly routine, laundry and dishes, I forget the importance of saying, his new haircut looks great, or thanks for running the vacuum, and "hay baby, you smell great". It's easy to get wrapped up in the day to day routines, and over look the simple yet important things!
2007-03-24 11:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Butler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop asking. It is exactly because he is comfortable and sometimes it is too much pressure. Maybe you ask more than you think and he doesn't have a chance to come up with it on his own. Make it appear you don't care and tell him everytime a guy looks at you "that way" or a friend or co-worker compliments you. Eventually - he'll come around.
2007-03-24 10:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by lucki female 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same reason alot of us women stop putting on as much makeup, and stop wearing clothes that "turn on" our men. We have what we were striving to get. Let your husband know that you miss that, and that you need to have those compliments. Sometimes we don't comunicate what we really need, and that is another reason. Maybe he doesn't realize that he has stopped doing that.
2007-03-24 11:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by torri77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 12:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by cornelius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look here Sister, my husband won't have sex with me and it hasn't been 2 years yet. Compliment your self and be thankful your still getting laid. Men are not right!!! Good luck to you, beautiful.
2007-03-24 14:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by Carla S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't think that way we figure after all these years and you don't know it by now then you wasn't listening all these years . I often wonder why woman have to be told so many times . Did you forget or just insecure?
2007-03-24 11:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most guys just feel so comfortable and assume you know they think youre beautiful, otherwise they wouldnt have married you, that they dont feel they need to be telling you every day.
2007-03-24 10:59:38 · answer #10 · answered by Leslie Kirsten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋