ok so i no im over wieght and kinda short . but i have a great personality, im funny and nice but only if ur nice to me. i no im not drop dead gorgoes but im not but ugly either. but why dont guys like me?
please help me with this.
and jerks out there dont tell me i need to loose wieght because im working on it.
2007-03-24 10:46:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Im 13 but im really mature 4 my age. atleast thats what my mom tells me.
2007-03-24 10:58:39 · update #1
How old are you? Sounds like your a little young. Don't worry about guys yet. While your mature, boys aren't. Girls mature faster than boys. =)
2007-03-24 10:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by Okie Dokie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys at your age are still very much immature and they don't know what they are doing at this time. They are looking only at the outside of people and not who they person really is. So don't waste any of your tears on men now you are going to have time for that later.
Now you said something about your weight. Does it bother you? If it does work on that for you and not for boys. You will feel better about yourself and then you will be turning the boys down.
Smile sweetie you sound like a very nice young lady.
2007-03-24 20:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by hudgey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl don't get yourself down about it! I'm a fit, ok-looking, funny, nice, friendly girl. Secret story-I guess I'm not the best with guys either. The only guys who have asked me out in the past year have been guys I really don't like or who are just not attractive physically and personality-wise. If you're uncomortable with your body, which it sounds like you are, guys will be uncomfortable with you because you are uncomfortable with yourself. Don't talk about how "I'm so fat" and "No one likes me" around them 'cause it puts guys in a very akward postition. If guys can't see you for the beauty you already have, then like hell they deserve any of the extra physical beauty you are working on achieving. You don't need a guy who's not gonna take you for who you are, inside and out. So be strong, confident, and project your personality with smiling grace. And always remember, you don't need a man every second to be a whole wonderful person.
Good luck hunni! Be strong. Girl power! =))
2007-03-24 17:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by Leahhh♫ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have learned if you just don't worry about it, they'll be falling all over themselves trying to get your attention. Confidence is what boys and men are attracted to. I used to be overweight and got made fun of a lot, it was very bad for my self esteem and it is very painful. People I didn't even know used to yell mean things at me! I took control of what I was eating, joined weight watchers and started working out all of the time, I no longer had the time or energy to worry about boys. Now, I'm grown up, look great but most important, I love who I am.
2007-03-24 18:40:08 · answer #4 · answered by oregonerin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) There's NOTHING wrong with you!
2)Are you absolutely sure no guys like you? ;)
3) I would suggest getting to know a few guys you think are nice, making friends with them and such. You never know where it all could go, plus once those guys see what a great person you are, other guys will take notice too.
4) Be confident with yourself. Let your inner person shine around everyone. It has definately worked for me!
Good luck!
2007-03-24 17:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by T Dog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it is hard because guys your age aren't probably as mature as you are! Dont worry about what other people think of you. if you know that you are better at heart show that you have the confidence to be yourself. It might help to get to meet other people. I know that teens your age sometimes get to be a little stereotypical because of looks, but it shouldn't hold you back especially if you have all the confidence in the world. So dont let that be an issue with getting to talk to people, let them know who you REALLY are, it can make all the difference!
Best of luck!
2007-03-24 19:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by soccagal17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be really outgoing and funny.
Get involved in a lot of activities at school, and try to be everybodys friend. Dont wait for people to be nice to you, be nice to them first so they have a reason to be nice to you.
Also try to be tasteful in what you wear. Overweight people can pull off a lot of really cute looks that look silly on skinny girls, so use that to your advantage. And if you cant fit into the designer clothes like hollister or abercrombie DONT TRY TO SQUEEZE YOURSELF INTO THEM. it looks ridiculous when girls to that.
At your age guys arent really that interested in girls but wait a couple years and you'll start getting guys. High school does amazing things for people.
ugh this was long im sorry
hope i helped
2007-03-24 21:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..... are you completely sure why guys don't like you? hmm.... you're 13..... you'll have plenty of time to think about boys after you decide you are comlpetely secure about your body. Don't try and catch others' attention because it will get them annoyed. But, just act normal and not to put guys in an awkward position. just concentrate on being a good person, one who is cheerful and not insecure about your looks because that just tells the guys that you're the same as the other girls and then you will just be invisible... but to catch their attention, be secure of your body first....
2007-03-24 20:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get offended, it's not you at all. Society now-a-days forces the idealistic idea that everyone has to be good looking. Some people are unable to control how they look, and unfortunately, most inconsiderate shallow people don't understand this. I blame it on society teaching kids that they are looking for only external features in life to be happy.
Keep that chin up and remember, God allows things to happen for a reason. To mold us, build us to what we will be. Have faith that you will find someone. And remember my all time favorite quote, " Good things come to those who wait."
2007-03-24 20:58:42 · answer #9 · answered by James 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its unclear if youre a female seeking a man or a man seeking guy friends.. either way.. you have to be confident in who you are. If a guy or whoever is not willing to accept you the way you are then its not worth it to be with them or to pursue a frienship.
If theyre your real friends.. or a guy that actaully wants to be with you, theyd work out with you and diet with you... you will find people who appreciate you
2007-03-24 17:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by WORLD FAMOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋