my fiance and i have been engaged since december and we still haven't told our parents. we're both young and still in school, and to be quite frank, afraid of our parent's reactions. when should we tell them and how?
2007-03-24 10:45:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if your parents are in the same place (State) then ask to have them meet together if it would make you feel more comfortable.. save up some money and take his parents and your parents out at a nice restaurant and at the start of dinner, tell them what the celebration is for.
If your families arent the type to likely go for that..which some arent..then I suggest each of you taking each set of parents out seperately and either going out for a nice dinner, or offering to cook them a nice dinner.. Either way, honesty is the best way to go hun..and the sooner, the better!
Just be sure to let them know you both plan on finishing school, and your engagment is a testiment of your love, it is not to discourage either of you from accomplishing your goals and dreams but rather its a promise that you will accomplish them together and with the help from each other :)
Good luck newly engageD! and congrats..
2007-03-24 11:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are afraid of your parents' reactions because you already sense that it may not have been the best thing to do at such a young age. You also know that they probably have valid objections and concerns. You didn't state how old you both are, so that can affect the outcome. The important thing is to handle this like mature adults. Make a plan, as a couple, to visit both sets of parents (first hers, then his), and tell them. Their reactions can range from happiness and congratulations. being upset and unaccepting of the engagement, and having concerns and raising objections. Try to prepare for a variety of reactions, comments, and questions. You can assure them of your love for each other, that you want to finish school, and that you won't rush into anything.
2007-03-27 10:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not old enough to tell your parents you are engaged, then maybe you should consider that you aren't old enough to make such a commitment. There's a reason 18 is the age of a making legal decisions. If "in school" you mean college - then you need to tell them. I assume you mean high school, though. Just don't tell them until after graduation.
2007-03-24 11:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by lucki female 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you have a ring ,arrange an evening to tell them together.Show them the ring and reassure them you are both finishing school, you sound very level headed and sensible.Make plans for the future and ask your parents opinion on how to carry out your plans .Involve them because if you don't it will hurt their feelings.
2007-03-24 10:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation many years ago. Just tell them. Being married is something an adult undertakes, it's time for you both to step into that role.
2007-03-24 11:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you grow up...how can you be engaged...hes bought you a ring please dont leave yourself so gullable...if he truly wanted to be engaged and marry you and love you so much he would want to tell everyone...you must both know you are to young as you would of not been scared to tell them....honest believe me it means more when everyone knows theres the party ...the buzz..you got all your lives ...i hope for you it is one of those romances that last for ever...but wake up ..you arnt the first and you wont be the last to be bought with a ring ...
2007-03-24 11:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by michellefluff 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋