Late 30's date who had strong, musky body odor?

Question

I'm dating a really nice man with really bad BO. I hadn't noticed it right away, but is has been an issue 3x now on dates. Unfortunately, I told him on early dates that he smelled nice (cologne), cause on THOSE days, the BO wasn't bad, just kind of musky/sweaty. I don't know if he doesn't wear an antipersperant or deodorant or maybe it is that he doesn't shower enough, but its getting to the point of not mattering anymore cause it is gross and I'm embarrassed thinkning about introducing him to anyone. How do I get the message across easily, nicely, with the least amount of embarassment?
PS: I am going to his home and will check out his bathroom tonight to see what, if anything he uses!

He is in his late 30's. He does do a manual labor job, but had not done it immediately before our dates, so should have had plenty of time to get ready and shower!

Answer 1

Tough one. I would say maybe sit him down and do it nicely, but FIRMLY AND DIRECTLY! Kind of a "I like you a lot, BUT..." Maybe he's not aware. Maybe there is a medical issue. Maybe this is something that can yet be corrected. Good luck.

Answer 2

It may not be him. It could be his clothes. Maybe he's not doing laundry often enough.
I would politely (if you can) ask him if he showers every day. If his answer is yes, then you have to find a way to let him know about this little problem.
I feel for you because of the delicate nature of this situation. But I admit, it would be a huge turn off for alot of people. He deserves to know the truth. Now I hope he can hadle it and take appropriate actions to correct the issue.

Answer 3

Why don't you buy him some cologne for his birthday or something, and tell him that this scent will smell lovely on him.

Or you could just ask him straight up. It is not good to build a relationship off of lies. Honesty is the way to go. If he gets too offended and gets mad just leave him. You don't need a man who is that touchy.

Sorry if I wasn't much help.

Answer 4

Girrrrrl! I don't know! perhaps you could say"ooh my (lifting your own arm)for a minute there i thought i had forgot deoderant!) maybe that will put him on edge to excuse himself and see if he's zest fully clean.And i am with you check out that bathroom,look behind the shower curtain.I swear if there is one sliver of soap stuck to the floor on its last bubble,you must address this now.He may be clueless and maybe you could offer to cook something since your visiting and if the cabinets look like they need a little tlc you could play it off and score a gallon of milk,a few easy bake items and it gives you the chance to throw in some dawn,clorox ,deoderant body soap and if you really like him grab the AXE shower gel and spray from wal -mart (really cheap)smells great!He will love the motherly love and not realize what you really did.Let us know what happened, smell ya lata!

Answer 5

Wow. You're a better person than me because I would have written him off the first time I got a whiff! And I don't mean like if he is a laborer or something and just got off of work, but if he is picking you up for a date and he smells, you've got a problem!

Answer 6

ew... i'm not very good with these kind of things, i usually just come right out and say it but do it privately.

if you choose this route, make sure it's not his natural odor. because i watched inside edition once and they had people who smelled like fish and rubber, because it was just their natural smell. you don't want to make him feel worse if that's the case.

Otherwise, you could always show up to your all your dates with a clothes pin on your nose, but he might get suspicious after a while.

Answer 7

musky men are usally more manly men. so can be direct and stright forward with him. Get him some of his favorite deodorant, sum body spray and tell him, "you're boarderline stinky, so watch it"

then bring out a boombox "press play" and give him a lap dance.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

You could buy a men's bathroom kit that contains soap, shampoo, shaving cream, cologne, etc..; I dated a girl who bought me a men's bathroom kit and she said she liked the way it smelled, I used it because she liked it. If that doesn't work, tell him he stinks and needs to exhibit better hygiene.

Answer 10

Just tell him he stinks! He might be a little embarrassed, but My husband always tells me men like it when you're blunt, so maybe this is the time to be blunt! Also, I know before I married my hubby he used to stink a lot! He didn't always have clean clothes so he wore dirty shirts and oh man did those stink! Maybe he just needs a lesson about doing laundry!