Please help I am a new mom!!?

Question

My baby is 3 days old and I love her soo much but I am having a really hard time coping with everything. I am soooooooo worried about her. How do you adjust to no sleep? I didnt sleep for 3 days because of my hard labor, etc. Is it normal and ok to live offf of 2 hours of sleep? Any advise? Did anyone feel anxious after giving birth? Thanks!

Answer 1

Every mom feels that way. I have two children, one year apart, so with the second one, it was twice as hard, because I had a one year old at the time. Just take a deep breath and relax - you have a new baby. Just be thankful everything is okay and the baby is healthy. Everything will fall into place - I promise. I've done it twice. It's hard, but you get used to it. And about the no sleep thing, I've gone without sleep for almost 2 years, and I'm alive and well. Sleep whenever the baby takes naps. I know it's harder said than done because you probably want to get house work done or even just have that time to yourself, but you'll feel much better. And if all else fails, call someone to babysit just so you can take a nap. Remember to look at that baby and say "it's all worth it."

Answer 2

Sleep when baby sleeps. The easiest way to get some rest is to co-sleep. You do NOT need to put your baby in a crib and let her cry or anything. Just lay next to her in your bed on your side facing her, with no blankets or pillows. Put your arm above her on the bed and keep your other hand on the bed between you. You can also learn how to nurse this way, but, I didn't master that until my babe was over a month old.
Anyways, don't listen to the people that tell you "oh, you'll never get baby out of your bed" or "that's a bad habit" or "you;ll cause SIDS" because they are simply NOT TRUE.
I will give you my sources if you have time to look at them, but I hope you just get some much needed sleep.

Anxiety is also called "baby blues" in the first days/ weeks after birth. Just try to relax, babies arent fragile, believe it or not. And make sure you tell your OB or Midwife or doctor what feelings you are having so that they can help you. It is normal for some baby blues, but sometimes they get out of control. All your baby needs is you. And all you have to do is hold your baby, nurse your baby, change your baby, and keep baby comfortable and clean. Just take some deep breaths when you feel anxious or call someone and talk to them.
Or IM me! I'm always willing to help!

Answer 3

It is so stressful having a new baby in the house. Try to get all of the help you can from friends and family. Sleep whenever you can. Don't worry about housework for the next few days, use this time to bond with your baby. I know it is hard to do, but try to enjoy these days, babies grow so quickly. I had a playpen in my room for nights that way I wouldn't have to get up to get the baby. Diapers and baby wipes right by the bed are a good idea for those nightly changings. Feeling anxious is very normal, I think every first time mother has some anxiety. Hang in there, this won't last forever!

Answer 4

just take a second to breathe............. your not the only one to feel like or go through this so thats the first thing you need to know your not alone and many people have gone through this. The whole no sleep thing believe it or not gets easier but first you need sleep after a hard labor. Find someone you trust to come over and help you out just a few hours of sleep will make u feel better.Take a minute to walk away and scream or cry cause believe it or not if u can get it out you will feel better your hormones are going nuts since you have given birth. Call your doctor and make a appointment cause your going through post pardum depression which i hate to say it i never believed in it until i had a hard labor with my second child and even then i said well its cause im not getting any sleep!!!!!!!!! and my body hurts........ect. just see if you can get someone to help you. i know u worry about the baby but she will be okay and if someone will watch her right there at your home u can hear everything and know she is okay. congrats on the baby. everything your going through is normal. best wishes i hope this helps.

Answer 5

Hi,

Yes its normal to live off an hours sleep, Yes its normal to feel anxious.. every mum probably feels the same after giving birth. Yes you are normal.. you are just experiencing the same thing as every woman who has gone through this experience. Dont worry try to enjoy it, easier said than done but remember it does get easier.. also try and trust your instincts.. you cant go wrong then. Also dont be afraid to ask for help.. even if its a friend doing the laundry, washing the dishes, etc. And like every other reply try to nap when baby sleeps especially in the first few months.

Answer 6

Your really normal, the sleep thing works it way out, try to nap when your baby does if not ask your spouse to take over for a little while. Being worried is something you'll do for a long time thats normal, Trying to cope with everything can become overwhelming, you cant do it all! So what if everything doesnt get done, stick with the stuff that effects your baby, Your gonna be a great Mom.....

Answer 7

having a baby is stressful and exciting and overwhelming. sleep when the baby sleeps if you can. she'll let you know when she's awake and needs to eat or be changed. not getting much sleep is to be expected, but you can only go so long on 2 hours of sleep. you need to start making yourself cat nap while the baby sleeps. your body needs to sleep right now- it takes about the same amount of energy to run a marathon as it does to deliver a baby- that is A LOT of energy- and your body needs to heal and rest right now. you're doing a good job. take some deep breaths, take a warm shower and talk to some other women who have kids (your mom, sister, cousins, friends) they will tell you they went through the same feelings of anxiousness. this will subside and you will enjoy yourself more when you get some rest. if someone can come over to help you out that would help. is dad around? have him listen for the baby while you take a warm bath and a nap. have him bring the baby to you to nurse when the baby wakes. and then sleep again when the baby is done. rest will do a world of good for you. good luck and congratulations!

Answer 8

Sound like you need some help. Get someone (friend or family) to help you. Have them watch the baby for a few hours so you can take a nap. Also, sleep when the baby sleeps. It takes getting used to, but you'll get through it. You're not the only one who's gone through this. Also, it's normal to feel worried that you are going to do something to harm your baby, but don't worry. They're tougher than you think. You're not going to break your baby. Just relax, get some help, and get some rest and you'll feel better.

Answer 9

My baby is 6 months old now,i felt exactly the same as you,that anxious,worried,scared feeling.He has never been a good slepper either,he still doesnt sleep through the night,but dont worry you adjust to it, anything is possible you will find a way to cope,try and relax and enjoy.I seem to have blocked out the first few months through worrying anxiety etc i regret it now because i feel i missed out on enjoying his first few months,but trust me it gets so much easier, you will get into a routine soon and become a pro,your just adusting to change at the moment,she is only 3 days old aswell.its all worth the sleepless nights chick, you will see.Good luck and congratulations
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Answer 10

Feeling anxious is normal, especially as a first time mom, you're learning everything as you go. First off, take a deep breath and know that you're doing a great job! If you're nursing, try to master nursing while laying down, this came in handy for me when my dd was really young. I often took naps while she nursed, and she would fall asleep, still latched on (which is perfectly fine.) This was the easiest way for me to cope with the lack of sleep. Also, sleep when baby sleeps, don't worry about cleaning the house, washing the dishes, or any of the chores, just get your rest! Either let your partner get things tidied up, or play catch up when you're better rested.