A close friend got married. 4 months after he got married, we got a lot closer. Nothing major - spending time 2gether, flirting etc. About 4 months ago we kissed. I said that it was a drunken mistake &wouldn't happen again - it did. Over last 4 months we have kissed a few times but after each time I say "no more, you're married" & each time it happens again.
I know a lot of you will think I am an evil bit** from hell because I know he is married but I have really fallen for this guy. Last night after a month of being friends he came over & we ended up kissing. He also hypothetically asked me to marry him (I said no).
Since then he txt'd 2say he was making a CD for me & was there anything I wanted on it(!) I sent him txt this eve saying that this couldn't carry on. He replied that he'd been thinking about it all day & it had to be last time. Problem is I have REALLY fallen for him... What do I do? Want 2do right thing with him being married but it hurts so much...
2007-03-24 10:40:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Should also say that think the last thing either of us wants is to hurt his wife...problem is that we don't seem to be able to help ourselves. I miss him (and he says he misses me) when we are not together. Just need to know how to resolve this. Is there anything else I can do or do I just bide my time in the background until their marriage fails (which it seems destined to do - he even said "when [I] get divorced" last night b4 the marriage conversation like he knows it is doomed!)?
2007-03-24 10:45:15 · update #1
What you are doing is SO wrong and you know it!! You are being a fool - no good can come out of this!!! Run as far away from him as possible, cut all ties and leave him alone!! You are having an affair with a married man!!! An emotional affair is just as much cheating as a physical affair!! Put yourself in his wife's place - this is just going to continue to escalate - get out now!!!
2007-03-24 10:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks, but you really do need to back off! He will respect you more if you do, and if it is meant to be, he will get divorced and you will be together. If you are falling for this guy that hard, the last thing you want is to be his mistress. You will only end up getting hurt! You need to find strength from somewhere and back off! Talk to him and tell him why you are doing it. Let him know how you feel, but tell him that as long as he is married, you can't be with him. The longer you allow it to continue, the harder it will be to break it off!!
2007-03-24 17:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard as it is, walk away and tell him that if he does want to marry you, then you'll still be there but wont see him again while he is as its not fair on anyone. That way you will know if he is serious, or like a lot of men, just want some extra activity away from the home. Either way you will know.
2007-03-28 08:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by runningbabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are a bad person - you have fallen for a guy who cannot give you what you deserve. I think you know what you must do and that is to break contact with him even though it will hurt like hell.
If he can come ot you a free man to love you like you deserve then all well and good but if not then stay clear and wait for someone who can give you the love you deserve to have not some hackneyed half aresed promises.
2007-03-25 14:27:35 · answer #4 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You KNOW what you ought to do, don't you?
Carry on as you are now and you will destroy his marriage. If then you get him, remember...if he will be unfaithful to his wife now, why should he not with you then?
Just DO what you know you should.
It is actually the wrong thing that FEELS like the wrong thing, isn't it>
2007-03-24 17:54:32 · answer #5 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a no win situation hun. You know it's wrong so keep your dignity and self respect and walk away. If it's meant to be it will be.
2007-03-28 07:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Isis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to give him up for good.
You may not want to hear that but he is married.
2007-03-24 18:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by toni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WALK AWAY sorry to shout but thats what you know you must do
2007-03-24 17:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r a snake u should feel a shame of your self
2007-03-24 17:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by Bend it like Bender 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋