my husbend says that his feelings to me have changed and that he needs time time what do i do i still love him

Answer 1

Peoples attitudes, personality, and interests change every 10 years. That is the initial cause of every problem in every relationship and people have no idea. If a couple realize this and work together to accommodate each others changes, the relationship could last forever. Talk to him about these changes to see if there is anything you can do to accomadate him but I don't mean as a slave. If you already have done that then its to late. He took an oath, not that anyone cares these days but he should try even if he has a problem with you. Usually there are 3 main factors for a man to change his feelings. 1. Your looks have changed physically and unless you got hit by a truck or been on drugs or smoke then looks are probably the same. 2. Your attitude has changed, have you become a nag? Don't tell him you will change, just let him see the change. That takes more than a week if you know what I mean. 3. He has himself a side dish that doesn't nag. That usally is the end of a marriage unless he sees a significant change in you.

Answer 2

Time for what to cheat? how long have you been married and are there any children? Well first of all you have to pay close attention to the whole situation some times men feel their loosing their sexual appeal and go into a slight deppression. The older they get for some reason they want to do things they never did when they were young they don't want to face that their getting older. But talk to him because your his wife and you have every right to know what's going on maybe get some counceling to get to the bottom of why he's feeling like that. Tell him you'r going to set up an appointment for counceling study his reaction and you'll know a little on what's going on if he reject's it then there might be something fishy that he doesn't want you to know because in those sessions allot comes out I mean they make you talk.
See his face reaction and if he's all for it then he's out to a good start but if he backs off when the time comes then you may want to wonder what's the problem and realy letting him have it just kidding. Be smart about it and don't be to pushy either you might just make things worst try not to ask to much questions. The way I do alot of my questioning and my husband don't even realize it is that I talk as if I "know" and things just start comming out so I get my quesiton answerd and he don't even know and I just leave at that but if something is bothering me I talk untill I feel better because we end up fixing the problem. If there are children he needs to stop and think on them and not be selfish and think of him self only he needs to face his issuess and get over them I'ts all about the kids.I'm 33yrs. my husband is 37yrs. we have four children the oldest is 13yrs and the smallest is4 yrs. and we've been together
for 14 yrs and been married for 11 yrs , you name it we've been there and trust me there is a solution for every thing it's not about us any more it's about our children our focus is on them now and with out them are marriage wouldn't be stronger. We have are up's and down's but now they come with laughter. You have hope you have the power to change things don't let him be all in control you take most of it. I wish you lot's of luck and pray think possitive handle things with love and you'll see a good reward.

Answer 3

Well since you still love him maybe you should tell but if you did already tell him and that you are not ready for a divorce and that you will never will be because you want to spend the rest of your life with him because that is what you promised when saying your vows i am not married and i am not in a relationship but i think it will work because things like this pops into my head and now i want you to take this advice from me and i am only 22 years old and you are maybe younger or older than me!!! GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 4

I am sorry you are going through this. But first, know that it is not your fault that this is happenening. It is up to each partner in a marriage to take their vows seriously, to be dermined to stay physically and emotionally faithful. We change over time, due to changes in life. But when people commit to spend their lives together, the vow is not, 'till one of us has a mid-life crisis" or "'till one of us becomes less attractive to the other." A marriage has to be worked on DAIL to be maintained. Conflicts and difficulties from day-to-day, and natural changes in our body CAN affect the way we see each other, but people who stay married for 40 and 50 years do so by reminding each other and themselves why it is they fell in love in the first place, and immediately working on potential problems as they arise. They communicate and they persevere, TOGETHER. Both parties have to see the marriage as something permanent in order for that game plan to work, however. That said, I would ask him what it is he ultimately wants to do, because YOU want to stay married. If he wants to as well, why don't you try couples' counseling? But the key word in thet phrase is "couples." In order for this to work , he was to want it, too. Unforetunately, from what I've seen, the more "me-time" people take, the more selfish they become, and the less desire they have to work on a commitment. If he doesn't want to make things work, seek some help for yourself and surround yourself with loving friends and family who appreciate you. I really hope he comes to his senses.

Answer 5

Give him space & time to think, he needs to reflect on his feelings and what has change about the relationship. Have you ask him the reason of his change, do you argue alot, maybe the situation is so intense that he just needs a break not just him but you too. You need to sit down and reflect on your emotions and feelings as well. This is just one more test on how truly one and other feel, sometimes we get so cought up on our partners life that we forget how to be ourself and to be just one person and I think he might feel that way too.

Answer 6

What for let him go and you go your way im sure there are allot of guys that would love you .Life's to short to waste on an infidel like that.

Get yourself all dressed up pretty and have some fun for a change

Answer 7

usually when a man's feelings have changed, and they say they need time, it usually means they are having an affair. u may still love him, but are u willing to wait around until his affair ends, or he leaves u for her? it is hard to have someone say he needs time, it usually means he needs time to decide what he wants. he isn't sure of the other woman so he is telling u to give him time. if his feelings have changed for u, u need to find out how? and if he isn't in love with u anymore, u need to get out of it, because it will just hurt u more emotionally to have hope, and faith in someone, only to be let down and hurt when they leave u anyway.

Answer 8

either he is
1) cheating on you or
2) found another woman and wants to cheat on you or else
3) has some medical problem and it's altered his personality.

Give him time, if that's what he really wants, and make sure to sneak around and find out what he's really up to. You two really need a heart to heart chat.

Answer 9

Not much you can do - I would say take all the time you need, he'd have to move out of the house, and I wouldn't contact him AT ALL!! Sounds to me like he needs to realize what he's got.

Answer 10

Hes just stalling. Hes up to no good.. Watch him very carefully.. You cannot force someone to love you even if you love him.. Prepare yourself for what seems to be an enevitable seperation.. Sorry but thats what it looks like to me.. Is he having an affair ??