Ok im more on the masculine side most people cant tell im gay unless they ask me because there going by the stereotype that preppy guys are gay since i am a prep i guess thats kina coicidential anyways. I think its mest up when guys like me that are gay but are more masculin up to extra butch make fun of femmmmy guys. Its like you know what it feels like to be gay why would you make fun of others who are just feminine we cant help for being gay they cant help for being femy. Its like fems cant even feel at home around other gays my gay friends well my bi friends make fun of other gays and there like hell im not that ******* gay ,if we see a guy with a hand bag or something.Its like alot of masculine gay guys are *** holes to femy gay guys i think its to feel straight or 2 get aproval from straight people what do you think.have any of you fems exsperienced this.Have you guys witnessed this.
2007-03-24 10:17:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Its seems like femenine guys get the cold soldier like alot of guys even fellow fems are like i only date masculine or straight acting guys what is with that.
2007-03-24 10:18:34 · update #1
I know exactly what you mean. You know..for a community that is all about wanting "equality" and "acceptance" and "tolerance", it's the biggest group of cliques I've ever met that excludes people that are not JUST LIKE THEM.
2007-03-24 10:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by I_color_outside_the_lines 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yup, I feel the same way! I don't know any gays (haha i'm not out of the closet) but as far I know, I'm more straight acting then I used to be in secondary school. There was a freind of mine who was really femmy. He said he wasn't gay when asked but he is really girly!. Thats not to say that he is gay - you never know - he could be straight. Anyways, fact is he was such a great and funny guy - he was so great to be around. I have to admit (i feel terrible for doing it and I promise I'll never do such immoral things again ) that once or twice i avioded him because of what people would say if they saw him with me. Then i realised, I was being an asshole, then just went about normally and hung out with him regardless of what people said. I think you're right about the straight acting gay guys making fun of femmy gays, just to get approval of the straights (damn i hate that word!! - makes me feel like i'm not normal - haha don't worry i'm not crazy). I think the femmy guys, would only date other masculine guys, because they need some sort of weird comfort from something manly - haha. I don't want you to think that i'm making fun of femmy guys - honest i'm not - an asian gay like myself knows all about the pains of not being accepted in his culture (check out sri lankan culture - lol if ya wanna bore yourself and you'll see how that shitty culture doesn't accept me!! unfortunately i was born into it - hehe)
2007-03-24 12:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by Me Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it ironic that the gay community wants acceptance from the straight community, yet masculine gays don't accept effeminate gays?
2007-03-24 11:55:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I try not to judge people based on their innate mannerisims. I personally am a femme, but wouldn't dream of snubbing someone just because they happen to be butch. Its extremely shallow to do that and I refuse to be part of that scene.
2007-03-24 10:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by lunarlight555 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It takes every kind of people to make the world go round.
2007-03-24 11:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Recognizing the differences in our communities and respecting them undoubtedly shows your maturity.
2007-03-24 12:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while i'm not gay, i have experienced the same thing. no matter what you do, someone is gonna find fault. be the best person you can be. after that, ignore those who talk crap.
2007-03-24 10:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by bldskd9 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must be hetero; your spelling and grammar are too poor to be gay.
2007-03-24 10:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋