What's your opinion of it? Should it be done? ...Not really to ask permission exactly but more of a heads-up for the parents, wanting of their blessing, and also out of respect?
If you were to do it, how would you go about it? ...wait for the parents to both be home one night and go over there to talk in person?? Where would you do it (over dinner, at the kitchen table in causual conversation, comfortable in the livingroom)?? What if there are other children at home that may be around to make things uncomfortable??
2007-03-24 10:13:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that sounds like a very nice thing to do. I would have loved it had my husband done that before asking me to marry him. I agree that this is a dying trend, but a thoughtful, romantic and respectful thing to do none the less.
I would do it in person. Call over and tell them that you would like to come over and talk with them to make a time that works for both of you.
If this is your plan, good luck, and once it is all said and done.... your fiance is going to be thrilled that you did that.
2007-03-24 10:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by michellecdnd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a very nice gesture. Shows you respect them, their daughter, etc.
Are you popular with them? Have you met them, have you and their daughter been dating long enough that they won't worry it's a quick marriage? If so, then you don't have anything to worry about.
Wait until they're both home, call ahead of time. Try to get them alone. If they're not stupid, they'll probably have a pretty good idea what's going on. I think in the living room seems best, but that's just me. Any place would work. Even take them out to dinner.
2007-03-24 17:20:18 · answer #2 · answered by Principessa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chivalry is NOT dead. The Rules of Decent Society say the male fiancee should respectfully ask his love's father permission and/or blessing to marry his daughter.
It's a lovely concept, a little old and past-dated perhaps, but there's nothing wrong with the idea or when/where it should be done. If present children witness this--where's the harm? It's not like anyone is going to be disrobing---I hope not!!
Chill out and allow chivalry it's shining moment.
2007-03-24 17:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did.
We were over there for dinner and he went out to the garage to refill some wine glasses. I said I will help.
I said,,, i have something to show you! right away he smiled and said,, a ring. Yep, i said.
I said, I would like permission to marry your daughter,,, he looked at the ring, smiled and said you bet.
The he asked,,, so when will you be asking her? I said I have to ask her tonight because I wrote a check for the ring and she may notice $4000.00 missing from the account.
We left, took her to the lake,, and proposed. She was soooo happy that we went back to her parents house and then everyone found out that I asked her dad,, but he didn't tell anyone.
He was great,
I think it should be done more.
2007-03-24 18:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by scott in minnesota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband ask my mom if he could marry me..I think it is out of respect..He said he did it when I had stepped out..I think it should be done..My kids are going to do the same..My son will ask his future wifes parent and my girls guy better ask us..I think it is out of respect and for them to give them there blessings.
Oh and I think he should do it when ever he feels comfortable..I do think thought that it's better to do it in person..So when ever the parents are together.
2007-03-24 17:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by ♥AsH♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a dying trend...but it is still done. JUST make sure the fiance knows...my then fiance forgot to tell me he was talking to my parents...it was a little weird for ME. LIZ
2007-03-24 17:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by Eric & Liz E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a classy old tradition
2007-03-24 17:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by PuckDog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋