Will try and keep this short. Childhood bullied by father, abused by uncle for 7 years. At 16 thought id found the perfect guy, we stayed together for 16 years. He had an affair after 16 years of being faithful. Have had ME for 10 years (mild and is under control). Class myself as a survivor not a victim. Problem is im too inderpendant and with 2 children find it hard to find a new man. Lack of trust i think. Had dates always make a mess of it. They either want total phone calls, emails, dates and i just carnt do it all the time being a single parent. Id like someone in my life, but why do guys want to rush everything?
2007-03-24 09:49:01 · 15 answers · asked by rain_b_ow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
because blokes are built like that, and want sex, however if they really do like you they will wait, dont worry it will all come together in the end
2007-03-24 09:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you just seem to be attracted to the same type of man. More then likely a man that can be a bit controlling of wanting to take charge. And personally I think you need to have some healing time , even if you think your ready , because your finding the (same type of man) . .. As you say..
Perhaps you should just let things happen ...if you by chance find someone.
Being with out a partner is not a bad thing.
It took myself a few years by myself to find what I want. I also did alot of soul searching to find out what I didnt want.
It also sounds like you have enough troubles to handle first before you start looking at the big picture.
Live life , take care of your kids, everthing else will follow if you are suppose to find someone you will.
Being Independant is not a problem either. There is a difference between being independance and when your with a man letting him be a man..
Also just advice here, trying looking for a friend that is a man then just trying to make *it happen**
2007-03-24 10:03:15 · answer #2 · answered by krennao 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient it will happen normally it's the other way round and you are waiting for them to hurry up and get serious. Sounds like you have your life under control with your children and other things so you no where you are at. Some men find that threatening but I say just enjoy every day that comes and don't look for love as it's just around the corner. Good luck x
2007-03-24 09:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by phillippa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys wants to rush, because they can. Now you stay in control, and the next time, just take it slow, and be a friend first, and then you can move it to another level. Concentrate on the kids for now, that way as a parent, you can do your ground work, they need you more now. and when you least expect it, someone will come into your life!
2007-03-24 09:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 17 virtually 18 and in no way had a boyfriend. So i'm exceedingly unlucky in love. I constantly fall in love with peopl ewho are unavailable to me because of fact they stay too a techniques away or they do unlike me.
2016-10-20 08:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will tell you, they rush because you work and you are independent and that's what men look for these days a woman who will pay for their expenses.
But on the other hand there are good men out there but few of them let's say 1% are good and 99% dish them in the bin.
when you chose the right person take your time don't rush accepting any one until you are sure its the person you will feel safe with till the end, because it is no use to rush into things then regret it later on.
2007-03-24 10:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by ta7adi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God still loves you.He has given you the strength to survive, the courage and patience to bring up two lovely children. You are also very choosy which is a good thing. Us chaps are weak-in that we are pushy sometimes due to our hormones and impatience-the way some of us were built I'm afraid. May God continue to care and provide for you.
2007-03-24 09:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by Birdman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with all honesty hunny you will get here me a similar situation have been a single mum for ages..none of the guy,s i meet are genuine..i have lost me mum to cancer in the last 3 years have a daughter of 16 who has spent most of her life in and out of hospital having operations..thought i had met a nice guy spent 6 monthes with to find i was one of many...so i do understand a little bit..this week i have been on an absolute downer..but today i looked at my daughter and she looked at me and said mum i love you ..and that made everything fall into place...and then she announced was of out with her friends to the movies and could she have a tenner..well i laughed so much ..and realised that we all have a purpose here..and if mr right is out there he will find us...if not we have the most precious thing our kid,s.....it,ll be alright you,ll see x
2007-03-24 10:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by hawthorn330 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some who don't. The ones who do....just kick them into touch and move on.
A counselling session or two may help (or phone your local Salvation Army 0fficers....I have always found them sympathetic and non-judgemental)
2007-03-24 10:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have had a bad time with men and you are an adult now and the one in control so you make the decisions not them
2007-03-24 10:00:40 · answer #10 · answered by denny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋