Me and my husband havent even been married a year now, and already we have lost our spark. All he wants to do is be by himself. He is in the military so i understand he is stressed alot, but its like he doesnt try to work on our relationship at all. Im only 20, and he makes me feel like im just something in his life. I try to talk to him, and he always just says "stop complaining". I dunno, i love him so much, i am always trying to make him understand how i feel but i've run out of ideas. I just want to be romanced, i know that sounds like a bad girl cliche but its true. I dont want his every move to be about me but i want to just feel something. Please give me some advice, but please dont tell me im too young because ive heard that all before. Im looking for relationship advice not an age reminder.
2007-03-24 09:44:37 · 7 answers · asked by afgirl830 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try harder..
2007-03-24 10:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by coffee37man 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You make the move. He does not have to be the one to bring in the spark or romance. They do feel like you are complaining even if you are not to talk to them. Guys do not think like women do. They are simple minded. I am sorry but it is a fact. I just think if you start by just saying I love you....and he may not at first respond but eventually it will all come back....be patient....the first year is the hardest....
2007-03-24 17:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by tamreye1959 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW,,
tough question. I have been in the military for a long time and it is very hard.
Plus, his age. he may be trying to establish himself in a career, but neglecting what is really important.
Try to trick him into romancing you,, kinda, seduce him into romancing you, teach him what will make you go wild, but try to use reverse psychology or what ever it takes to teach him what makes you purr
2007-03-24 16:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by scott in minnesota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont have any advise but i did want to wish you luck
hope you find ur spark
Just remember that Marriage is a 24/7 job wtih no vacations lol
Best of luck Hun
2007-03-24 17:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by heather_honey_2002hs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter about how you feel without it sounding like you are complaining. Let him know that you are there for him and you support him. Giv him some hints like maybe cut out some pictures from magazines of romantic scenes and let him know your ready when he is.
2007-03-24 17:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by No Religion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get back to basics. You both love eachother, that's the main thing. Talk to him about it, if he really cares for you he will listen and do something about it. Find things that he enjoys doing.
2007-03-24 16:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy a whip! Smack his ***. LOL
2007-03-24 16:57:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋