What Do You Do If You're Publicly Humiliated?

Question

My "ex-friend" publicly humiliated me. I'm going out with her ex-boyfriend now, and she found out just a little ago, and she told almost everyone in my highschool my deepest darkest secret i told her because she used to be my best friend. I'm not going to say my secret, but i'm so embarresed now! Oh, please, what do i do? Help!

Answer 1

If you are really upset, confront her with her bad behavior. But the classy thing is to just ignore her. Apparently her friendship with you isn't strong enough to handle having her former man have happiness with the "next best girl other than her". Not your problem.

Answer 2

Take what you deserve. You did not honestly think that you were going to take the secrets that she shared with you about her man, use them to form a relationship with him, form a better relationship, and get no back lash did you?

Now - to really answer your question - spend time with your new boyfriend. Do not show any emotions to anyone who brings it up. Act like you do not mind - like it was a very old concern or something that used to bother you. Change the subject when people bring her name up or confront you about the story. You do not have to admit/confirm the story or not admit/deny the story.

When it comes to any form of humiliation most of it is based on wanting the people to like you. Nothing wrong with that, but most forget about gossip and move onto something else very quickly. Most people are also not worth caring if they don't like you - screw them. Let her have her laughs. You have her man.

Which one really won? (If you are saying you - make sure you are right about this guy - you could be dumped in a cruel way next. I hope you aren't being humiliated for nothing, and as for her - hurt or not - no real friend discloses secrets you shared in pain. That's why psychologists are always better than best friends - they can't tell your secrets.

Good luck and quit crying. You started this mess - now go hang out and have fun on your next date. The more in love you look the less humiliating her story is. She is only trying to give you what you gave her. Maybe your new boyfriend and your new relationship is legit. I have no intent of judging. Just move on.

Answer 3

That was a pretty low blow for her to do that...guess she felt it was her best way to get revenge against you. Unfortunately, she did let the secret out of the bag and yes it embarrassed you big time...you'll just have to keep your head held high and don't let her know it got to you~! Most people will look at her differently to do something like that. She needs to grow up* Sorry your secret is out...but now that it is..she has nothing on you* and she'll have not too many friends as they'll finally see the "real" her.

Answer 4

If you act like it doesn't bother you and just shrug it off, people will see that and think, 'well if she isnt worked up about it, why am I?' Just like dogs can sense fear in people, your peers can tell when something is getting at you. Don't let it affect you and act as if nothing happened. Believe me, people will forget in no time and have a huge amount of respect for you. If you act upset and miserable people will see vulnerability and take advantage of it. The same thing has happened to me and doing these things made people feel like assholes for giving me a hard time about it.Anyways, Good Luck.

Answer 5

You go to school with your head held high . NEVA let them see you cry is what i'm always told. You came to school to learn and not to deal with stupid, immature teenagers who's lives are so boring that they have nothing to do apart from talk about yours.

Or you could put all your classmates in a headlock and say "you didn't hear nothing, alright. Now your gonna go ouside and tell everyone what you herd isn't true otherwise you better kiss goodbye to your family and friends now. Don't think i'm bieng tough. I haven't evn started yet".

Answer 6

This is what high school is all about... stupid dramas! Your ex friend obviously isnt mature enough to handle problems herself, which is why she needs to do silly retarded things, like spreading your secrets. This is why I dont tell my most embarssing secrets to friends. My friends will just never keep their mouths shut when they cant keep a juicy secret. And if you ever mess with friends, they'll keep your secrets hostage. So yeah, you need to start spreading rumors, wheter true or not, about your ex friend and teach that B*tch a lesson.

Answer 7

Play it cool.If she sees that it affects you then she won.Just brush it off when people tease you about your secret.People will eventually admire the fact that your confident about yourself.Try making fun of yourself and laugh about it.It will make people think that it isn't funny anymore and find less and less things to talk about you.Tell them to tell you something that you don't know about yourself.Be firm.I did the same thing and it help me through.It is a different tactic and a hard one for people to have a come back on you.DON'T FIGHT FIRE WITH FIRE CUZ IT WILL BURN DOWN THA HOUSE.Try it and you will see a difference.

Answer 8

Their is nothing you can do, but in time they will find something, or someone else to talk about. Never tell people your business, it just gives them more ammunition, on you, and you never know when they are going to use it. Just hang in their, and in time, every thing is going to be okay!

Answer 9

Laugh it off. She sounds like shes just trying to get to you. God, I absolutely hate people like that. Dont give her the pleasure. If youre really vicious like me Id spread some rumor about her too or ruin some of her stuff. Just to get her back. But youre probably too nice for revenge.

Answer 10

sorry but i honestly dont kno how 2 mak things better. but i do kno a way 2 cheer u up a little. R-E-V-E-N-G-E!!!!!!!!!! she told evry1 ur deepest darkest secret so u tell evry1 hers. if u really were best friends, she musta told it 2 u. thatd mak me feel better. hope i helped.