i'm 25 years old and my mom is still a ******?

Question

i'm a professional, completely self sufficient yet my mom is constantly nagging me about not drinking too much, eating properly, what kind of professional development i should continue to do, etc, etc, etc. is this ever going to stop?

Answer 1

you should move out and then you want have to hear it

Answer 2

Your mother "nags" you because she loves you and wants to see you become the person she knows you are capable of becoming.

She may have forgotten what it was like when she was 25. Or maybe she remembers too well and doesn't want you to make the same mistakes.

Most of us mothers just want to save our children from unnecessary pain. What mothers have to realize, though, is that sometimes the only way a child can learn is by making his own mistakes.

She's right about the drinking if you are really drinking too much. It could ruin everything else in your professional, completely self sufficient life. Look what it's done for Mel Gibson. If it could ruin him, it could ruin your life too. Do a little research on this subject independent of your mother. Find out what it takes to be a true alcoholic.

Tell her you appreciate her concern and humor her a little bit. Share your successes with her. Take her out to dinner occasionally, and let her cook for you and feed you regularly. She won't always be here, and believe me, you will miss her when she is gone. I know.

Answer 3

She's your mother like it or not and no I don't think she is ever going to stop. As long as you live you will always be her little boy, because that's how she sees you. In her mind you have never grown up, and it is a kind of dependency thing that you really need her, and without her you could not survive. The only thing you can really do is to move far enough away that she does not have too much contact with you. This is not a unique situation you are in, many mothers can be like this. Unless you truly want to hurt her feelings the best thing to do sometimes is bite your tongue be polite. You don't have to do what she says though.

Answer 4

Just be glad that your mom cares about you... no, she really loves you and wants you to be your best... you should tell her how much you love her and appreciate her concern for you... Then you can tell her that you are really doing fine and that you love her! Then you can also show her how well you are taking care of yourself... being an adult... and she won't have as much reason to be nagging you.... I don't know, maybe she has a compulsive nagging disorder & can't help herself!
Anyway, good luck with this, and if all else fails, move as far away as you can but still keep in touch with your mom ok! I am somewhat of a worry wart - nagging mom myself... but I had to realize that my kids are adults now and I have to let them be in control of themselves and be responsible for their own lives and families now... I do love them still, and want to hear from them often.... but I really don't nag or guilt trip anymore!

Answer 5

It probably won't ever stop. That's who she is, she'll never change. I have the same problem with my dad. I know he has to say "be careful", "don't do that, do this", "you should do that, go there"...whatever.
The reason why she does that is not that she doubts your abilities, she just has to nag to calm her own conscience. If she tells you what to do and you don't listen and something goes wrong, she can't be the one to blame! She told you what to do and that way she knows she did her best, that she did everything she could.
You shouldn't be mad at her for worrying about her child, you'll always be her child, no matter how old you are. She'll always be worried about you and she'll always try to give you advice in order to be at peace with herself.
You shouldn't take it personally, she does this for her, not for you. And it's a sign that she loves you!
You just have to be more patient, and get used to it, accept her for who she is so she could start accepting you for who you are.

Answer 6

No matter how old you get, your mother is going to continue offering insight on your life. She gave birth to you; she took care of you as you were growing up. Maybe you should sit down with her and thank her for her insight and explain how you feel about it. Don't cut her out but just ask her to not be so into your life. You'll be sorry that it stops if something ever happens to your mother.

Answer 7

afraid not. It used to drive me crazy. she didn't like that I had beer in the house. I stayed out to late. Dad wasn't any better.
Then dad got cancer and she forgot all about me. a few months later he died. He was a ****** to. But it was the saddest day of my life . A few years later my mom got sick and died. Now neither one nags me.
But I would give anything if just once they could and I could tell them how much I love and miss them both.
That you can live with it means someone cares about you.
What is harder to live with is that they are not there.

Answer 8

It won't stop unless you confront her about it. Over time, she's developed the habit of nagging you, and that's a part of what your relationship has become. As the 2 of you age, and you hit milestones that she values, she'll probably become less critical, because your life will be changing more in the direction that she thinks is desireable. A sure way to test my assessment: keep drinking alot, eat like a hobo, never get married, and see if she has changed 20 years from now.....I'll bet she won't!!!

Answer 9

Nagging is embedded in her personality, and it won't change no matter how old you are. If you really want her to lay off a bit, try saying this: "I enjoy your company a lot more when you make an effort not to nag me."

Answer 10

No dear. It will never stop. Mothers always worry no matter how professional or self proficient you become. It's in a mother's nature. What you need to do is agree with her and tell her you are working on it. And compliment her often. It always works! ;-)

Answer 11

Remember, Mother is a mother. Try to live with it. Ask value of mother from ones who dont have her. If she is asking you to eat properly, she is asking it for your good health as she cares about you. I hope that you are not misbehaving with her, just try to live with it and try following what she ask u for, atleast when she is noticing you. this will make her feel that you are taking care of yourself and more importantly following her guidelines. Eventually you complaint will be vanished. There are two ways to solve any problem, GOOD and BAD, always try to adopt the good one.

Good Luck