what is going on?

Question

me and my hubby are in a marriage but we dont sleep togateher for the past 5 years. i have done everything to change his mind but he says that he has stopped loving me and is staying for the kids. he wont go to a shrink and after 6 years of living seperately, i have given up. we live under the same roof but only talk of the children.a year back a man ,younger than me, became my friends and slowly we became more. but we never met in person and he left me saying that i should work on my marriage.i did exctaly that.i tried everything but my hubby wont leave me, nor be affectionate with me. we fight, scream everyday and last night i had enough. i have decided not to fight anymore.i now kive with him as two parents raising kids. nothing more. but tonight my former boyfriend contacted me after a year asking how things are .then he went away to watch a game. i dont know what he wants? what do you think?please dont call me a cheat, my hubby cheated on me first.please answer!

Answer 1

Is your question asking what do we think of your former boyfriend contacting you after a year asking you how things are going then he went to watch a game??
I would say he was just curious how you're doing. It's your business if you want to cheat on your non existant relationship with your husband...you say HE doesn't want to leave....so why don't you go to a lawyer...and leave with the kids and they can have visitation with him.?? Live your life and look after your kids. Why stay in a marriage that really isn't a marriage anymore. ?? He says "it's for the kids"...I disagree. It's worse for the kids to listen to you both arguing every single day., fighting...they need to have the feeling of "love and happiness" not.."verbal abuse back and forth" what is that teaching them?? I would suggest going to a lawyer and finding out what you can do to get out of a non existant marriage in every shape of the word. I wouldn't want to live my life that way..you and the kids will be better off starting fresh..but still allowing him visitation for the KIDS sake* That I think is very important as long as he's not abusive towards them.
GOODLUCK* (remember ...life is too short ...you don't want to be thinking in 20yrs from now, what you Should have and Could have done with your life rather than living it as you are now. It's not healthy for you or for your kids)

Answer 2

This sounds like its his way of controlling you. Why waste your precious time in this life living with someone who doesnt love appreciate and respect you.. yOu have a chance to be happy.. and you are not taking it. You two will be better parents seperate too.. b/c believe me, you dont want your kids growing up around the two of you.. They learn how to act in their relationships by watching you two. So grow up and get out of that house if he doesnt want to. Just move on.. and who cares about if he will leave you... YOU LEAVE HIM. and thats that.

Answer 3

It sounds like you two really need counseling. If that doesn't work invite me over to spend the night! I'd love to share your bed and I bet he'd take notice seeing my black *** getting up taking a shower first thing in the morning!

Answer 4

Time for a divorce hunny you need to move on!!It will be better for all in the long haul.Then you can date as you like!You deserve to be happy i say go for it!

Answer 5

Jesus, this relationship sounds just about over if not been over.You should do all of you a favor and leave.If not for good at least for a whlie.For real.

Answer 6

GO OUT WITH HIM OR ANYBODY ELSE FOR THAT MATTER YOU HUSBAND TOOK THAT QUOTE ITS CHEAPER TO KEEP HER SO LET HIM KEEP ON PUSHING BUT YOU AS LONG AS YOU KNOW IN YOUR HEART THAT YOU HAVE DONE EVERYTHING YOU COULD DO FOR YOUR MARRAIGE THEN BE DONE WITH IT AND FIND SOMEONE ELSE AND BE HAPPY YOU DESERVE IT