is it normal?

Question

is it normal ofr a 16 year old to have mixed up felings about my sexual orientation? i think im straigh hut latley have been having gay thoughts that i dont want to think about, i would like to know if this would be just a phase. i am attracted to woman and have feelings for girls but for some reason the past 3 orr 4 months ive been recieving homosexual thoughts. not about liking another boy, just sexual thoughts. what is this?

Answer 1

yes your normal your only 16 and your hormones are running wild just relax and do what comes naturally to you

Answer 2

Just remember that you are normal. Thoughts pass in and out of everyone’s minds all the time. It makes no difference of a person’s age, race, sex, or sexual orientation. The difference is the action taken on the thoughts. Overwhelming and restricting thoughts are usually from an underlined situation that has not been resolved. Although there are many theories on the matter Freudian theory is the most accepted. My suggestion is to look into the issue. If it is overwhelming you then find the true meaning of it. Overbearing feminine figure, unwanted sexual experience, and insignificant masculine role are just a few possible reasons. If you’d like more the American Psychological Association and the Association of Psychological Science are two good places to start looking. There are many more out there. If you do a web search for them I would stay away from .com as much as possible you never know who is writing it. Look for org. There are many professionals to talk to about this also. You are very normal for questioning thing at your age. As long as you control your actions and don’t let your hormones control your body, you will sort thing out.

Answer 3

I am 100% heterosexual, but I too have sometimes had gay thoughts. It can't be helped. I've had other thoughts that enter my mind randomly that mean nothing. For example, one time I was talking to my friend, and suddenly I thought, what if I just puched him as hard as I could right now. haha. I had no intention of doing it, just a random thought. But if you do turn out to be gay, or bi. it's all good. I know it would be hard in highschool to be anything other than hetero, because of all the bullying, but know that in college that all changes. It's becoming no big deal.

Answer 4

Let me tell you something, I am 27 and gay. I never would have thought it would happen to me because I never ever even thought about it. My entire pre-pubescent life I liked girls, hung out with girls, had girlfriends and crushes on girls, never even really liked guys much. But I had several meaningful crushes on girls.

Out of nowhere I became attracted to the male body, and once that happened, it never went away for me. No one knows how this will all play out for you.

You might be gay, you might be straight, and you could be anything in between. Take comfort in believing that it doesn't matter what you are. You get to be whatever feels right for you at whatever time it feels right for you.

Because I'm telling you, I never had a single thought about males until after puberty had pretty much come and gone, and then out of nowhere I noticed my body responding to guys' bodies, like on tv when watching the olympics.

It took me years to fully understand my sexuality as it evolved. At this point in my life, I consider myself gay, and not only am I completely happy with this, I do in fact enjoy it. I feel unique. I'm glad to be able to identify with what it's like to be a minority. I wouldn't change it, becuase I don't feel my environment has any right to expect me to be one way or the other.

Good luck to you, and don't worry about it. One way or the other things will work themselves out. It is kinda weird when you don't know what you feel. For years after I realized I must be gay or something, I was still concerned, because my feelings for males seem to be sexual only, but my feelings for females were emotional only. I was never, nor have I ever been, attracted to the female body sexually. It took me awhile to find that yes, I could, in fact, have meaningful emotional attachments with males, and in terms or romantic relationships, this is currently my preference. And while I'm not sexually attracted to the female body, I do believe meaningful sexual relations with a female is completely within my realm or experience. I don't try to limit myself to any arbitrary standard.

My main message here is just not to worry about it. Maybe you'll be in the same boat I was and have to take some time getting comfortable with a new you. Enjoy the ride. Maybe it'll just go away. No matter how you turn out, at least it will be you! And don't ever believe anyone who tells you that is not good enough.

--charlie

Answer 5

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Answer 6

is this garvey?

Answer 7

then you can just stop thinking these thoughts..............................