I get on well with our newly appointed assistant manager, i considered him a mate we often give each other lifts to and from work as we live in the same estate,but today i was called into the office for him to formally 'TALK' to me about stuff that he's taken completely out of context, stuff we have laughed about together. But the thing that REALLY annoyed me was that he said i was bullying one of the girls which is completely untrue, she's new enough and i'm always sayin stuff like "get ****** to do it she's the newbee haha"i always laugh then do it myself.........It's just the way i go on and most importantly she knows that and laughs with me.
I'd love to go in on monday knowing my rights and taking some kind of action, can anyone help me.
He is sooo wrong and can't get away with these power trips!!
2007-03-24 08:40:35 · 8 answers · asked by AllyG 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
It sounds like she might be "laughing" along with your "joke" because she feels she has to, while in fact you are belittling her and making her feel uncomfortable.
Perhaps you should tell you boss that although you meant no harm, you recognise that your comments might have been inappropriate, apologise for it and assure him it won't happen again.
If he's right, you've said the correct things to make amends, and if he's wrong, then you have shown a more mature approach to the issue than he has. Getting angry about it, or telling him you know your rights, will simply make you look belligerent, and in the wrong.
2007-03-24 08:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but you are bullying the girl even if she laughs along with you, probably through embarrassment. You said yourself that you are always saying stuff like that, why do you need to do that if you are going to do it yourself, has the penny dropped yet? Maybe the same goes for your assistant manager & thats why he decided to talk to you formally. Just as you have rights, so do your work colleagues and that means the right to be able to come to work without being ridiculed or made to feel small. Read your companys handbook/guidelines on bullying in the workplace as you need to be clued up on what exactly bullying is. If you still think that they are wrong, ask for his complaints to be put in writing so you can see exactly what you are being accused of & if you still think its unfair, go to his superior with a counter complaint.
2007-03-24 15:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by Cathyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, he probably can.
Even though you said those things as a joke, he's taken them out of context and you really can't deny that you said them. Maybe the new girl made a complaint about you - perhaps she was laughing with you at the time but was genuinely offended privately.
You're just going to have to learn from this one, I think. Remember, when you work with someone, particularly if they are your boss, you have to keep a professional difference, otherwise it can come up and bite you right on the **** when you least expect it.
Sorry, Lovey, I don't think you have a leg to stand on.
2007-03-24 15:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by sallybowles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If Yahoo censored the term YOU used to refer a newly hired employee, then it not only may be considered offensive to Answers! participants, but you can safely assume the new hire also took offense to being called that.
And SHE DOES carry rights to complain to her (and your supervisor) about your verbage. Currently, there's not much a leg for you to stand on.
So this is falls in your friend/supervisor's lap....and trust me: it's a highly uncomfortable position your carelessly spoken quote now puts him in. By NO means is this a "power trip" in so much as it's "poltical correctness"....and now you must atone--so be ready for it.
Doesn't hurt to note in the back of your mind this new hire girl may be savvy, slick--and all too ready to use 'sexual harrassment' (which I consider a HUGE joke), to HER OWN CAREER ADVANCEMENTS. Translation: steer clear of her totally, if possible.
If I were you, I'd type a very sincerely written apology to this new hire and make it sound heartfelt. I'd show your friend/supervisor the letter first "off the record". Maybe he can find time to speak to the offended new hire....and things can settle down to normal. This is a real case scenario.
In the future, it's suggested you be highly careful what you say to co-workers.
2007-03-24 15:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by Hard Rocker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you've blown your rights, the best thing you could do is treat the other member of staff with respect. In future keep thought to yourself and don't share them with your boss, don't forget he is your boss and if he doesn't do his job professionally then his job is on the line too. In future keep your head down and get on with your job.
2007-03-24 16:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a w*********r mate! i wouldnt consider him a friend at all mate! just make sure the new girl knows youre only jokin and u respect her really and evrything and I just wouldnt talk to him 4 a while until he gets his head straight!
2007-03-24 15:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by ダニエル 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Beware of sexual harassment.
Forget your rights, sexual harassment is VERY serious.Knock it off IMMEDIATELY and you may be able to save your job.
2007-03-24 15:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by Barry auh2o 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have no rights.
You are staff.
He is your boss.
Nuff said.
2007-03-24 15:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by sapphire_velvet 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋