Well i have been bi since the 4th grade but recently i broke up with my ex and i loved him. i thought that if i dated the girl who i liked then i would get over it. well i was WRONG!!!! im still very upset. See im under the lable of the bi punk emo goth girl and im in the seventh grade. It hurts me to see him not care about what i do with anyone. its like we never dated.i still talk to him over the phone but every time his new girl calls he says he has to go. i knew that it would happen sometime i just didnt want to think about it.But now i like the girl hes daiting but theres like 4 other girls that like me i dont know if i should just become straight or just be who i was for 3 almost 4 years. im confuzed and dont know what to do. please help me.
2007-03-24 08:33:40 · 12 answers · asked by GothicXRomance13 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Whoa, slow down! First of all, SEVENTH GRADE? That makes you what, twelve or thirteen years old? That's WAY too young to be dating - you're still becoming who you are!Forget the dating pool for awhile, chica! Learn to be yourself - WITHOUT someone else.
And as for labels, forget those, too. Labels are for soup cans. Personalities are for people. Don't be a soup can, it's a miserable life. Be a person. Find some hobbies you can do well at, and let yourself grow. Wait until you're older to date, and don't worry so much about your sexual orientation! My grandmother used to sing this old song, "Que Sera Sera," to me whenever I started worrying. "Que sera, sera" is Spanish for "what will be, will be." If you're meant to be with a guy, that's great - and it will happen eventually. If you're meant to be with a girl, that's also great, and it also will happen eventually. Or maybe you'll end up like me - I'm single, and happy that way.
Don't let the media shove their ideas down your throat. Do you know that MOST - not some, not half, but MOST - of the girls who live in my dorm are single? They're focused on goals, on friends, on hobbies. They don't need a guy (or girl) to validate them, because they are validations of themselves. In other words, you don't need a boyfriend or girlfriend to be happy - if your life is truly balanced, you'll be just fine without one!
Being single doesn't make you a loser, pathetic, antisocial, or "stupid." People may tell you it does, but the truth couldn't be farther away. I know people who started having sex at your age, who are now my age, and say "I wish I'd waited." A LOT of the people I know regret diving into the dating pool when they were twelve, thirteen, fourteen years old.
Your body is still maturing and developing into a young woman; so is your mind. By the time you're eighteen, the odds are good that you'll be a totally different person than you are now (I know I am). Take that time to grow and mature separately from some romantic partner, and enjoy it - because you'll never have your childhood, or your teenage years, again. Once they're over, they're GONE. All you'll have is the memories. Make them good memories with your friends and family, not memories you'll look back on and say "you know . . . I wish I hadn't done that."
2007-03-24 09:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by living_in_a_bell_jar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im bi ^-^ w00t! good it sounds to meh such as you obtained a case of both bi-interest, which in time will fade away, or precise bi/homo emotions hahaha dont be afraid to expiriment, get round slightly. take a look at relationship a few bi/homosexual men and spot for those who suppose proper. all of it can pay off eventually ; )
2016-09-05 14:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd steer clear from both your ex and his girlfriend
Figure out who you really are first.
This could be just a simple case of misattribution.
You think you're still in love with your ex,
but you just might be afraid of losing the comfort of having him in your life.
You think you're attracted to your ex's girlfriend.
But you could be just mistaking this as attraction,
as a means for distraction from your ex's apathy.
Either way, you need to figure out who you really are, and what you really want.
And you can't figure that out if you keep holding on to both of them.
2007-03-24 08:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should be straight. i know that you are probably very confused right now but all this girl or boy things aren't worth your time. just forget about dating for the mean time. 7th grade isn't a time to be like that. just stick to being straight and see how it goes. trust me it will be the best choice.
2007-03-24 08:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by Susie Q 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should love whos in your heart so you cant say right now.
2007-03-24 08:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by hotbrunette511 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end you must be true to yourself and get away from those who will not accept you.
2007-03-24 08:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by HelloHello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emo's a phase, so is Bi-sexuality, once your older, than it gets better, but please, Ive seen alot of Lesbo's go crazy in High school, try an clean up your act, its very hard going through puberty and homosexuality, just play it kool,
2007-03-24 08:38:42 · answer #7 · answered by George H 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I've heard it said that if you're bi, it greatly increases your chances for a date.
2007-03-24 08:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
honey you can't decide if you are bi or straight (you can't wake up one day and say today i'll be bi) you have to follow your heart. good luck
2007-03-24 08:38:35 · answer #9 · answered by crazycheese_13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry it is not an option, but the answer is within you!
2007-03-24 09:12:45 · answer #10 · answered by Hey Guyz! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋