Can someone pls explain this?!?

Question

Why do women stay with men that are verbally, and physically abusive towards them??? I just don't get it!?!

Answer 1

Some people get into a certain mind set when it comes to relationships and once you are in that rut it is extremely hard to break out of. When you are in that situation you are constantly trying to please your partner, it is all about them and never about yourself.

One starts thinking, "Well, if I just do this right, he will love me and praise me." So they start focusing on gaining that from their partner. They keep coming back, because in their mind they can still get even that little bit of praise from them.

Its like a parent and a young child. The child usually only wants love, support, and kindness. They don't always understand when their parents are disappointed in them and will go to any lengths to get back in their good graces.

I'm sorry that this isn't a very good answer. It was the best way I knew how to explain it. Email me though if you want to talk about it. I have a best friend who went through a very similiar situation.

Answer 2

Why? The woman's self-esteem has been gradually and systematically eroded by the abuse of the perpetrator until they feel that there are no other options, that they do not deserve any better than what they have and are made to believe they deserve the situation they are in. They are made to feel that they are the cause of their own abuse and anything negative that occurs in the "relationship".

It begins insidiously with restricting access to friends, family, until the perpetrator becomes the sole source of support and social contact. They will then utilize verbal and emotional abuse to gain further control and ultimately this can lead to physical abuse. Then they stay out of fear.

They are so trapped inside their paper bag that they cannot look up to find the opening. The perp feels empowered by his own actions and the control he exerts over another human being. The victim only alters the situation when something drastic occurs that causes an epiphany; such as the perpetrator beginning to focus on their children or they may come to the realization that death is imminent and then they choose to take action to extricate themselves from the situation.

Although statistics indicate that women are usually the victims in an abusive relationship, men also can be the recipient.

Answer 3

It's a good question.
If the woman is very afraid of being alone (and some women are), she may be reluctant to admit to herself that the situation is as bad as it is (in other words, she's in denial). If they both use drugs, or if she does, it can be difficult to make rational decisions. If the guy is the sole source of income, this gives him a powerful position in the relationship.
Abusive guys usually will go through a routine of apologizing and promising to reform. This keeps the woman strung along for a while until things get really awful.

Answer 4

What everyone has to remember is the abusive person is going through a cycle. It is devastating for the people to see because the abused thinks its normal. The abusive person is hit, told it is their fault, controlled, then given a honeymoon period fill of gifts and kind words. Unless the abused does not realize the relationship is about control they will continue in a dangerous situation.

Answer 5

Low self esteem, that's the irony, they will never feel better about themselves while in that dead end relationship but they don't have enough self confidence to leave. That's why rescue houses have been such a God send it gives them an out. The thing you failed to mention is there are more women in abusive lesbian relationships then in heterosexual relationships.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

The demon you know is better than the demon you don't...

Sometimes women stay in the relationship because they're scared of what might happen to them if they leave. Some stay because he's manipulated her into thinking he's the best she'll ever be able to get. Some stay because he's said he'll hurt himself if she leaves.

There's no easy answer and no one answer works for all cases. I think in general it comes down to fear.

Answer 8

You and everyone else will date people that reflect how they feel about themselves. If you grow up in abusive chaos it is what you expect

Answer 9

all things ppl do isnt rational.