my best friend here at the college recently told me she was bi, and wants to have sex with me. should I?

Question

I don't want to lose her as a friend. she's the best friend I've ever had. she's thoughful, stylish, funny, smart, and careing. no one would ever suspect us because of the way we look and dress, but I'm afraid that by sleeping with her might send her the wrong signal. she might think we should always sleep together, or want to move in. however, I would do anything to keep our friendship alive. so should I?

Answer 1

Yes do it. You would not be asking this question if you had no intentions yourself.

Go for it. Set some ground rules like the things you were talking about like moving in, destroying friendship,etc.

Record it possible.

Answer 2

Think in terms of her being a guy. If you had a really great guy friend who wanted to have sex with you, would you have sex with him just to save the friendship. Even if he was thoughtful, stylish, funny, smart and caring? No, b/c the friendship would be ruined by it. When does sex NOT change a friendship between a guy and girl? Just because your best friend's a girl, the consequences are the same. There is no such thing as completely meaningly sex. It always changes the relationship. If you aren't bi or a lesbian, don't have sex. If you want to remain friends, don't have sex. If you want a romantical relationship with her that may result in you eventually losing her, have sex.

Answer 3

No one, regardless of gender, should be forced to sleep with anyone else in order to keep their friendship. Unless you are prepared to deal with a lesbian relationship and lifestyle, do not encourage an affair with this friend. If she is really your friend, she will not press the issue if she knows that you do not sexually "swing that way". No. If lesbian sex is not what you normally enjoy, do not compromise your values or become obligated to perform sexual favors to hold on to a "friendship".

Answer 4

Why even consider it? She will under stand, I suggest watching that episode of Sarah Silverman, where she too had some what the same problem, Its scary, I personally dont believe in bi-sexuality, most people can force then selves too hard, which shows your friend may need help, you should hook her up with another women, so the focus is off of you

Answer 5

That's a tough one.

Are you attracted to her in a physical/ sexual way? If yes then go for it.

If not then I'd say no. Sex can ruin a good friendship - so I'd be worried about that - as you mentioned.

She sounds like someone you could openly talk about your concerns with.

Answer 6

If you are interested in trying it out, it sounds like a good safe opportunity. You should tell her how you feel about the friendship up front to let her know that it is important and you don't want to compromise your friendship. If she can work within those guidelines, you should be ready for Sexy Time!!

Answer 7

Well, if you think that sleeping with her would ruin your friendship i advice you not to do it. But then again if you are curious and want to try something new go for it. I dont think it will hurt to try it. Maybe you end up liking it more LOL Good Luck

Answer 8

No, do not have sex with her later it may cause problems in your friendship. If she wants more than sex and you are bi and a possible relationship may come from it then you choose friend or possible lover.

Answer 9

Sounds like a dysfunctional relationship to me. Only you can say if you are bi or not. However, to sleep with someone just so they will be your friend is a cry for help.

Answer 10

No. You never once mentioned wanting to do that. You should only have sex with a person because YOU reallly want to. She will understand that you don't want to. If you lose her as a friend, she was never a real friend anyway.