Well I havn't felt that I can trust my fiance ever since I caught him secretly talking to his ex. I believe that nothing else happened between them BUT i still don't trust him. Im usually very trusting of everyone but once my trust is broken I dont know how to repair it. Anyone gone through somthing like this?
2007-03-24 07:53:29 · 5 answers · asked by lovebug512 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In any relationship, once the trust is damaged,its nearly impossible to get that trust back to a level where it was before. This comes down to what exactly are you willing to live with and just exactly how much trust in him do you have left.Thers always the possibilty of him forever talking to his ex but where to draw the line and enough becomes enough. How much is he willing to let you know about his conversations with her and what is being discussed.If there are no children then he should be having very limited contact with her now unless he isnt completely over her and there still are feelings. Youre not the one who has to repair your trust but him to regain it. So it depends allon you and what youre willing to put upwith for your own sanity. Good luck
2007-03-24 08:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible they are just talking as friends?
Some relationships are very open, the man has lady friends and the woman has male friends but the friendship is nothing more than that. Is it possible that when your fiance broke up with his ex they agreed they'd be friends? Maybe your fiance didn't know how to tell you this thinking that you'd blow it out of proportion. Doesn't mean that there was anything sexual going on between the two of them. I say hear him out, give him a chance.
2007-03-24 15:21:24 · answer #2 · answered by Handyman Dan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may never forgive him, but if you decide because you still love him and will give him another chance - he will have to show you from here on in that you can trust him again. Sitting down with him and having a serious talk about what you feel and what you will expect from him before you give him that second chance will help.
2007-03-24 15:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about trust. Learn a new language. It's about respect. Have you told him that you feel that if he respected you and your relationship he wouldn't be sneaking around and contacting his ex? I mean, it would be different if they were friends, everything was above-board and platonic, and you were in the mix, but sneaking around with an ex is disrespectful.
I say tell him that you want to re-think this marriage thing because this was disrespectful, and he's used up his one chance.
Communicate. Be concise. Be truthful. No BS.
2007-03-24 15:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wonder if youare a scorpio :-)
I would be the same to be honest, i trust until i have a reason not to, ex's are tricky, but he is engaged to you, he loves you, i would put a bit of time into checking the situation out, but if you come up empty, put it away, it will do your head in.
Did you see him talking to her or was it by phone....did he hide it from you or was it in front of you. If he's lying to you then you have a reason to be upset, otherwise trust him.
2007-03-24 15:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by natc 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋