My friend who is a freshman in high school and 15 met a guy 6 months ago who is 17 and now they are engaged and are planing on trying for a baby when she is 17. We all think she is WAY too young and we have talked to her about it but she is convinced that shes in "love". Her parents have asked us to try to talk her out of this decision but its not working. Should we just back off or talk to her more?
2007-03-24 07:35:40 · 5 answers · asked by southern belle <3 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
either let her do it and wreck her life and you can say i told you so in the future, or sit her down and make her write the pros you write the cons of it and obviously theres more cons then pros so yah hopefully that might help a bit.
2007-03-24 07:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is something that worked for my sister when she thought that she wanted to start a family.
A friend of hers who had a child less than a year old, left the baby with my sister for the weekend. She was responsible for the child in every way. It was an eye opening experience considering that the child was unable to do anything but cry and scream and throw things because it was unable to talk.
As far as the marriage goes I would have her talk with someone that is just recently married and let have her tell them all the stuff that they have had to do as a new wife. Most kids think that getting married is just setting up house and everything is cool after that. But they don't realize that they need to keep the house clean and fix dinner and do laundry. I would even have Mom not do the job of housekeeper for a month so that she would get the idea of what it is like to go to school (hopefully she still plans on staying in school), and keeping a house. Have her plan the meals, cook, do laundry and everything except for drive to school every day. Maybe that might help to open her eyes to what being a responsible adult is really like.
2007-03-24 14:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by Sandra C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her more. She's young, and her mind isn't fully developed. She doesn't know for sure if she's in love, and won't know until she's well in her twenties. Plus, being engaged and trying for a baby in the teen years is a horrible idea, because she'll totally mess up her live. They aren't in love. I've seen so many relationships in high school so far, and they've lasted for a long time, and those people broke up. The 'way too young' thing isn't going to work, because in the teen years, teens like to be more independent and make their own decisions. This'll be a big fat regret for her in the future, because it'll totally mess up her life. Her mind isn't fully developed. This is just a stage.
2007-03-24 14:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she IS too young... express to her your concern, and let her know you LIKE the guy she is with you just hope she wont leave too soon...
2007-03-24 14:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say just back off... what do you do when every one tells you no..... just makes you want to do it more ... right????
2007-03-24 14:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by NAYNAY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋