Is it wrong to have a child when you know you can't afford it?

Answer 1

I think it depends on the plans of the parents. My husband and I knew we'd have money troubles, but we prepared by being careful with money and making plans to find better jobs. We now have our son, and money is tight, but we do it.

If someone has no plans to try and better his/her life for the sake of the child, then don't conceive.

Answer 2

To answer your question it is not the best thing to do. But if you are already in the situation the best thing you can do now is try to plan to take care of it finding a job that could support you and the child and also finding local resources to help with the care of the child. However, if u have not yet made a baby consider the pros of cons of raising a child without having money to properly feed, cloth, take the child to the doctor, and all the other stuff that comes with raising a child. For instance the emotional stuff and will anyone help you in the care of the child fiancially and can you afford daycare. By no means will I ever tell someone to abort a child so if u r someone u know in this situation they need support not someone telling them that it is unfair. But if you are not in the situation wait until you are emotionally, financially and spirtiually ready to handle such a big responsibility. This will be your child 4 life not just 18 yrs. With anything you should have a plan even if it as simple as waiting until you and your partner can contribute equally to raising a child.

Answer 3

If the person is already pregnant then there are many factors to consider. Are you willing to change yor life so that you can attempt to become more finacially stable? And also I feel that abortion or adoption is up to every person individually and if those are options do your research and go from there. Consider all the surrounding factors and talk to somoene about it that has went through the same thing.

If you are just thinking of having a child and you know that you can not afford it do not do it. First become financially stable then begin to try to have a baby.
Children are very expensive and as a parent you should want them to have everything they need and also be able to give them what they want without going overboard.

I had my daughter at 17 and was by far could not afford having a child but I was prepared to do anything it took to take care of her. I was very blessed to have my family who supported me and my daughter for almost 2 yrs. She is now 4 and i work and go to school full time and will gradutae w/ my BS next year. My daughter is in 5 different dance classes and goes to a private school. I always say to myself i have to do everything for her as if i had her at 30 when i was finacially stable because she did not choose to come into this world with a young mom. Yeah I dont get to go shop for coach purses and dress in bcbg anymore but shes happy. so it can be done you just have to be prepared to cut back on stuff for yourself and family/friend support always helps.

Answer 4

Um..NO! The reason i say that is b/c i am a mom of 2 beautiful wonderful little boys. I have a 2 year old and an almost 4 month old. THEY ARE MY LIFE.

Heres the thing. YOU ARE NEVER financially stable to have a child. You NEVER know how much a child is going to cost you. You got the birth, shots, when they get sick, if they get ear infections, need surgeries. YOU ARE NEVER PREPARED for such a huge responsibility but it shouldnt stop you from having them.

My hubby and i were barely making ends meet when i got pregnant the first time and i was even on birth control. BUT, we had our little guy and we have never regretted it. Yes, he has cost us a lot of money. And we are still paying on some it BUT he is worth it.

Then we had our new one...well same goes for him except he was month early, was air vac'd to Childrens Hospital. In ICU and was on a ventilator, had a chest tube put in, feeding tube and many other thing went wrong. Then he was taken back by ambulance...The air vac alone cost us $10,000 but our insurance covered and most of everything else.

We dont care about the bills we are just glad he made it through his horrible ordeal. We lost him at one point b/c neither of his lungs were developed. They got him back though and here he is today.

DONT LET ANYONE OR ANYTHING STOP YOU!

Answer 5

No it is not wrong. You don't HAVE to have all the expensive things. You can cut back on some of your spending that is not necessary. As long as you have food and a roof over your head I see nothing wrong with it. And then you can start saving and then by the time the kid is going to school hopefully you will be at a point where he or she can have some of the nicer stuff. You could try and get a better job or a second job or whatever it takes. If you really want something find a way to get it (legally of course)

Answer 6

As long as you CAN afford to provide your child with health insurance coverage, a car seat, food, diapers (figure about $40 a month on diapers) and weather appropriate clothing then you should be fine. You don't have to be rich to have a child, but you do need to be able to meet their basic needs.

If a person is not financially capable of meeting these basic survival needs, or they know in advance they will have to rely on government programs to provide these essentials, then they are not ready to have a child. Period. You need to put your baby first!

When my son was born, my husband was only making $42,000 a year, and we got by fine. We couldn't go out to eat all the time, and we didn't buy ourselves a lot of new clothes or new movies and things like that. But we we able to buy all the necessities. It's doable.

Answer 7

It depends. If you're planning on having a child, then you should wait until you have the money to buy the basic needs for a baby (bottles, diapers, wipes, etc). If the child is unplanned, then there's really not much you can do. You can either put it up for adoption, abort it, or get some assistance to help pay for the child. I dont support abortion, the best idea I think is to try and raise the child yourself even if you need some assistance. Good luck.

Answer 8

Yes, a child is a big responsibility and will be for 18 or more years. Why would you bring a child into poverty where you can't even provide the most basic things.

If you decide to have the child but feel you can't afford him/her be kind and put him/her up for adoption so the millions of parents who really want kids and can afford them will give him/her a good chance.

Answer 9

I think it is wrong to deliberately get pregnant when you know you are not in the position to raise a child. Do some people find that raising a child is much, much more expensive than they ever dreamed? Yes. Sometimes that is even the case and both parents are working but would never dream of life without their beloved child or children.
Think about how much you think it would cost to live with a child. Then multiply that by 3 to get a better number.

Answer 10

It is not recommended! I had a child with my boyfriend when he was 19 and I was 20. We got married a year later and he worked construction I worked in a hospital lab. Not bad jobs but not too good either. Our first few years were so hard. I feld guilty buying razers to shave my legs. Day care costs are phenomenal! We have two kids now and spent $13,000 on daycare last year. Our first child is almost six now and my 2nd is 15 months. Our marriage is still holding on but believe me, being a little more stable makes things soooooooooooo much easier, you'll be a better parent too because stress is a killer. Anyways I will never regret having my daughter, if you are pregnent now, I promise you, you won't regret it either. But it is hard!

Answer 11

Well, it's better than aborting the child or putting it up for adoption if those are the measure your talking about to prevent it.

however if you mean a planned conception than I honestly don't think it's too bad.

Fact is few people can actually really afford a kid, kids are expensive.

As long as you can supply your child with it's basic needs and you'll do everything you can to be a good parent I say go for it.