I am one of those too naive people. Have been hurt in past a lot. Are you one of those and have you managed to change? Do you think all the guys will just take advantage of me or I will manage to find true love?
2007-03-24 07:24:16 · 6 answers · asked by stargazer 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Become someone worthy of love and it will find you. Worthy includes respecting yourself and taking responsibility for your life and choices.
2007-03-24 07:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was hurt and taken advantage of by a female. I eventually got over it and am now happily married for 20+ years. My brother was taken to the cleaners more than once by women. He asked me for advice once and I told him he looking too hard and in the wrong places. I told him get back to Church and find someone who has beliefs he shares.
He took my advice. Two years late he was married and they were happy right up until he died in an auto accident five years later. So you aren't being naive. Love can come after disasters. All guys won't try and take advantage of you. Just the wrong guys will.
Maybe you need to find someone who shares your values. Not knowing the details, maybe you thought you were with someone who shared your values and still got burned. But if somebody shared your values and still hurt you deeply, you need to either re-examine your values, or do a better job of screening.
Be firm in a few important value areas and don't stray from them. Unimportant aspects can be over-looked. I knew a woman who turned down a real nice guy because she wanted someone at least 3 inches taller and he was the same height. The good news was for him, because somebody that superficial would be no good for a marriage partner.
2007-03-24 14:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do is rid yourself of all those stupid, chevaleric ideas that have been rammed down your throat. There is NO knight in shining armor that is going to sweep you off you feet.
You have to be your own person and if there is any changing to do, you'll do it yourself. Not only will someone else not change you but you must never attempt to change someone else.
If a person does not measure up to your expectations - move on. Regardless how wonderful that person might be. There are others just as wonderful or more so.
2007-03-24 14:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by Sophist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I might so bold to suggest, the reason true love eludes you is because that is your goal. To find true love one must first and above all else be willing to love others. By trying to care for others and by this I mean to see people as they really are, not as some potential possession or bobble to sling over ones shoulder or wear on their arm, by seeing people as they are, then we can love them. When we give love, it is only then that we can find it. But we can never lie to ourselves and somehow think that we can love anyone and make them our prisoner. Part of loving is respecting people for who they are, what they have made of themselves and what they want to be in the future. Loving someone is not wanting to change them, it's complete acceptance of who they are.
So, for you, for the first time in your life, really look at people, who they really are and what they have made of themselves. Look at them, and then offer to give them respect for the choices they have made. That is the beginning of true love and that is how you will find it.
2007-03-24 14:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never believed in such utopias as love...
2007-03-24 16:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by Beauty isn't everything... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a door mat .so you well always get walked on and over
2007-03-24 14:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by henryredwons 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋