I'm a Christian man who can not stand his wife. Should I tell her or just stay with her, cuz the bible says? She refuses to go to church with me and I really can not even stand to be around her. We no longer do anything together (nothing), not even sex. We have a child together and I don't want to hurt her either.
2007-03-24 07:18:36 · 13 answers · asked by -->-->Funkster 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
to be honest the reason is she picked up some pounds. I know call me a pig.
2007-03-24 07:23:43 · update #1
Even Christians get divorces. See a counselor first and remember to put your kid above everything else you may be blasting her world to smithereens.
2007-03-24 07:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by NakasEvilTwin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well now a days its really common for marriages to not last long. but I think maybe u and your wife should sit down and have a civil conversation and u should ask her if she has a reasonas to why shes not feeling so great or why shes been acting weird lately. Try not to make her seem like the bad person but try to get answers from her. And once she is done talking (just so u dont cut her off and no arguments start) ask her if she really feels anything in this relationship if maybe she wants a break just tell her do u want to fix this problem or just go on unhappy. as for the child she wont get hurt if u explain it to her. dont argue in front of her cuz as a child brought up watching her parents fight al the time ive grown up to be a really easily angered person. :/ well good luck.
remember try to figure out the problem , then try to fix it, if not fixible work something out, and if she doesnt want to have anyof it just ask her for a divorce. and dont ever show ur daughter that u are angry or pissed. dont involver her too much into it.
2007-03-24 07:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by lefthereburning 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend a therapist or maybe your preacher could sit down with the both of you. There must have been love there at some point maybe you two just need to find out what has changed and find the reason. I wouldn't recommend divorce but if it is a choice between that or living with a person you no longer love or even like for that matter, then I would say get the divorce it will be hard on your child of course but you wouldn't want her to grow up around a unhealthy relationship ether. I wish you the best, God bless.
2007-03-24 07:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by Rocky The Fearless 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may do the child more harm than good by staying together if there is turmoil going on around her between the two of you.
Something drastic must have happened to turn you against each other so much. Must have been love there at one time as you had a child together.
Ask God to help you make the right decisionfor everyone concerned.Good Luck.
2007-03-24 07:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you jump to separation or divorce, exhaust every avenue possible to make your marriage work, like couples therapy. Remember, you have a child together and that child's well being comes before everything. If you've tried everything and you two are arguing a lot, then think about a separation but make sure you make the transition as easy as possible for your child and be sure you are both actively involved in her life.
From a religious point of view, I don't think it is morally wrong if you two tried everything possible to make it work before ending it.
2007-03-24 07:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try a marriage counselor first, then if that doesn't work out ... file for divorce. Too many people think that staying together for the sake of a child is a good thing ... when in fact, it does the child more harm than good. A child shouldn't have to witness his/her parents fight on a daily basis. Good luck ... :)
2007-03-24 07:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Carol♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are lying when you say you are a Christian. Period. you should leave her so she can find someone better than you, but make sure you tell you child why, so that she will know she should hate her father and not make the same mistake when picking out her own husband later.
2007-03-24 07:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by cane_holder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!! You really need to get away from this person before she brings you down anymore. You will end up being miserable and eventually the child will be too
2007-03-24 07:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it hard to raze a child her body needs 2 year to got back in to sex. at less you are not in my shoes my wife never has sex with me and we have been marryed for almost 4 year.
2007-03-24 07:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it dosent matter what any religion says. .your only alive for one life time. .if shes depressing you that much definetly leave her. .imagin how good you'll feel . .but think it through first. .it might make you more depressed or something. . i mean can you afford it etc
2007-03-24 07:22:56 · answer #10 · answered by odelayy2k 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋