What is just about always on my mind is feeling terrible about how I spend my time. That there are so many more important things to be doing -- such as helping others and making a difference for the better in this crazy world. So much time is spent on material things -- for instance...I watch a neighbor across the street who clearly has a wife and kids -- work night after night on his Mustand. I'm thinking -- where is his family? Why the hell is he spending all his time on a freaking car? It seems so absurd. I spend as much time as he does on material things...it's just that it's less time on more things. Children's toys...money for batteries...fixing broken things...time spent deciding on a new hairstyle...it can go on and on.
What I'm here for is to find out where the balance is. I'm confused and frustrated and want to do something...but I've been told I can take things a bit extreme. Does anyone out there know what I'm feeling?
Thanks!
2007-03-24 07:13:18 · 6 answers · asked by japarino 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I understand what you mean. If youy want to make a difference, think about what you should do, and do it. As far as the balance, make sure you take care of yourself. If you do not care for yourself, then you are no good to others. As far as the mustang guy, maybe that is how he unwinds. Don't judge him, let him judge himself.
2007-03-24 07:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by Bag-A-Donuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're simply suffering the consequences of a 'conflict of beliefs'!!
One belief tells you it is 'carved in stone' about this subject,...and yet ANOTHER belief you hold says that subject is fulla holes!
It is the conflict that makes your daily events and your fun and joy disappear into CAOS!
It would be smarter to put down everything you have a strong BELIEF about. On one side all the POSITIVE items,....on the other, all the NEGATIVE. Now look at both lists carefully. See any items approaching similarity? Be honest. It's your funeral!
Any beliefs are simply IDEAS about reality. NOT CARVED IN STONE Just ideas!
Take any ideas you feel are not correct, or that you are not happy with, and switch a new one in it's place that says nearly the opposite!
Now don't linger on the excercise,...simply go about your day and watch the difference NOW that your subconscious KNOWS you are the BOSS. Because you ARE! But NOW you show it!
You are NOT at the mercy of playing robot to a bunch of silly beliefs!
You can alter you life to a very surprising success!
This is NO LIE!
Try it! Results are very quick! Sooner than you BELIEVE!! ha!
2007-03-24 14:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by cullentoons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to take a different approach and suggest that maybe what you really want isn't to help other people or make a better world, but that you want there to be more of a purpose in life. No amount of good deeds fixes that. You can find purpose anywhere and in anything, but only you can find it for yourself
2007-03-24 14:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by zeroambition 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worry about what others are doing...that will save you sometime. Make a weekly schedule where you set time for everything including having dinner with family and spending time with them daily, contribute to a cause close to your heart etc. and develop the discipline to follow it faithfully.
2007-03-24 14:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's great that you realize that and you want to make a change to help others and to help you become more of yourself. don't feel discouraged or that it's to late to start now cause the people you help won't think that.
2007-03-24 14:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by lifeoutsidethecircle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it sounds like u r a good person i always say my prayers when i need answers or comfort good luck
2007-03-24 14:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by Mississippi's Jersey girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋