married and in love with another man, we want to kiss and hug like normal couples do, but i am married and in the middle of a divorce, so would it be considered cheating if my new love and i kissed, or should we wait?
2007-03-24 07:04:26 · 16 answers · asked by crazy m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband and i are still together in the house b/c we have two small children that we both take care of.
but i think we r both ready to move on.
2007-03-24 07:19:49 · update #1
The thing is..if you wait until you are divorced you won't have anything to feel guilty about. Yes..I think it's a bad idea to start the hugging and kissing while you are still married, because we all know..hugging and kissing usually lead to other things.
At least wait until you and your husband aren't living together anymore and that divorce is really going to happen. If you are legally separated in the future..I don't know why you couldn't be with your other man.
Just make sure, IMHO, that you don't do anything you would feel guilty about.
Good luck.
2007-03-24 07:33:24 · answer #1 · answered by xnavygrrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a toughy. Are you and your soon to be ex living together? If the divorce looks like it will be messy then I say wait.. keep it quite for a while because if he takes it to court it may come back to nip you. If you think your almost ex views it as cheating chances are he will try to use it against you. he could easily say "look how fast she is with another man.. the divorce isn't even finalized yet.. " then you'll have problems just do what feels right for you.
2007-03-24 14:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by am k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it will be considered cheating or not cheating , so what ?
If you love this person go ahead with whatever will make you happy . Think of yourself and how to live your life with more joy and don't think of what will people say or of an ending relation with a so called an ex soon . This also will help you to pass your divorce feeling confident and loved , with hope for a new life and nice future .
2007-03-24 14:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by miki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a matter of conscience. You and only you will have to decide if kissing your bf while still married is something that you can live with after the dust settles. There is however, kissing and then again there is KISSING ! The decision has to be yours, and you have to deal with your conscience and any feelings of guilt at some future date. Since there are children involved and you will have to deal with your ex husband, why no wait a bit. It is obvious to me that since you asked this question, that this is something that makes you uncomfortable.
2007-03-24 14:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by Alfie333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think that it would be called cheating being that you are no longer with the other person and that you are in the middle of a divorce, and your ex-husband to be knows that you and him have nothing left there so I would say that if this new relationship would make you happy then go for it...
2007-03-24 14:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by Prissys_mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you leagally separated? Living in different residences? Has the divorce been filed?
If you answered yes to all of the above. Its not cheating, your marriage is over. The rest is just paperwork.
2007-03-24 14:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait, as it's all over but the formalities, unless you're an extremely religious person (adultry). Just make sure your divorce is certain before you do anything at all if you are.
Good luck in your new relationship
2007-03-24 14:12:12 · answer #7 · answered by fromorto12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going through the legal process of divorce, then no, it's not cheating. You've already, legally, left your husband.
2007-03-24 14:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait. Since the divorce isn't final, it could be used against you in the hearing.
2007-03-24 14:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by tallyluver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in the middle of a divorce, I would see no moral harm in it. However, wait anyway. Don't give your soon-to-be ex any ammunition.
2007-03-24 14:25:50 · answer #10 · answered by Disco Mudda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋