hello,
I am in love with someone who is seprated from his wife since 4 years now...he does not love her any more (according to him !) but he is still always hurt and in the SAME time: Still keep in touch!!!! with her and help her if needed.
they keep in touch only at a minimum level...BUt they should not I think...
what do you think guys?
..................
2007-03-24 07:02:26 · 11 answers · asked by jaja 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seperated, not divorced! Strike one! Still emotionally attached to her! Strike two! Are you going to wait around for strike three? He is STILL married to her! Move on while your heart is still intact.
2007-03-24 07:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage and Divorce is something so common now. My best friend's parents got divorced a few years ago and they still keep in touch. I don't think that divorce should mean that you can't still be friends. When you get a divorce, most people don't want to keep in touch because the divorce was ugly, or on party cheated on the other party, but in some divorces that are purely on the line of love, it is fine to keep in touch.
2007-03-24 14:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it's a good sign for you, because it shows he's not a nasty or vindictive person, that's very important in a relationship. Sometimes when a marriage ends, people can still be friends. The marriage usually ends because they can't live together, it doesn't mean they can't be friends.
Put away your jealousy and concentrate on your relationship because if you don't, it will become a self fulfilling prophecy. Your jealousy will destroy your relationship, not the ex.
2007-03-24 14:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he has kids then he should keep in touch.... the were once together i would say it is ok to KIT but if he is seeing her or the talk more then 1-2 times a month or so he still loves her and wants to get back together
2007-03-24 14:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by biggsclimes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, If they have kids they should keep in touch - otherwise if it's really over then it should be done!! Be careful - it's very possible that you are going to get hurt. I'd keep my distance until he figures out what he wants - he's obviously confused.
2007-03-24 14:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are kids involved, you need to move on cause it's clear they will continue to communicate. The whole hurt statement, I don't get. And if there are kids involved, it's clear you can't handle the interaction with his ex, who will ALWAYS be around.
If no kids exist, then it's blatantly clear he wishes to stay in contact with her in hopes rekindling their relationship. No ex should stay in contact with each other.
.
2007-03-24 14:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by ark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether or not they have kids. If they have kids then there is nothing you can do about their continued contact. If they don't have kids then I would give him an ultimatum. It's her or me! It's been 4 years, so it's time to get over her.
2007-03-24 14:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by plume 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way for him to get over it is cut all ties.The only way for you two to get along is for him to cut all ties with the x, three is a crowd.
2007-03-24 14:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's separated, not single, tell him to get a divorce. He wants to have his cake and it too! Move on, chalk it up to lesson learned...good luck
2007-03-24 14:09:01 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...it's not a problem if they do not feel tempted on the way...the question is...is he tempted by her too?
2007-03-24 14:06:24 · answer #10 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋