I work in a nursing home. I'm a caregiver and love to take care of elderly people. The problem is: I'm tired of watching people to die. It's hard on me! I feel so depressed and I always get really attatched when they are close to die. I want to make them comfortable and loved (many times they don't have family around), but then when they die it's too hard on me. Everybody tells me not to get so involved with them because they will die anyways, but that's just not how I am. I don't want to get another job. I just want to find a way to deal better with their death.
2007-03-24 06:35:12 · 5 answers · asked by brazilian33 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
I think you sound like a blessing in the lives at the end. I hope when I die that I have someone who cares as you do taking care of me.
Try to think of it this way. Death is natural and inevitable, and part of the cosmic cycle. We will all die at some time; think of it as a privilege for you to be near and help those at the end of life on earth transition to the afterlife. Focus on where they are going and not on your loss. Honor their lives with them and their loved ones, and celebrate their passing into afterlife.
2007-03-24 06:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you are a care giver. It is not expected of you to bear the burden of bereavement of strangers that you care for. I realize that it is a very difficult job that you have accepted - but you MUST find a way to detach yourself from the emotion of bereavement, this is the unfortunate patients relatives role - if they choose to show no care for their old relatives then you cannot take on the responsibility. Your job is to care for the patient whilst they are alive, show love, care, compassion to the living patient. When they die you must try to move onto the next patient - that is your selected job. Sorrow for death is normal, regret and remorse is not your responsibility - this is the job that you have chosen. Help and comfort the dying, but as your friends say - do not get involved. Unfortunately we all die. God Bless you in your chosen work.
2007-03-24 13:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by Francis H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a very meaningful job and is making a huge difference in the lives you're caring for. Birth, aging, sickness and death is part and parcel of life. The elderly do not fear death, but the loneliness during the last leg of their journey. Tell yourself that you've made the that journey more enjoyable and they left this world happy. And because they've lived in your heart.. their bodies may have left, but their spirit will live forever. For that, you're special. Cheers
2007-03-24 13:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by Unassuming J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a very kind heart, my mom passed away about 3 months ago and it is hard to get over stuff like that. You just have to deal with it and keep going, life have to go on for you. I really appreicate you asking this question, I think your job should be commending you everyday on how lucky they are to have you working for them.
2007-03-24 13:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you get close to someone, prepare your mind to think that they will die. If you do prepare your mind, you won't have much of a breakdown. There isn't much more you can do. You never know when someone will pass away so it is better to prepare yourself from before you say a word to them.
2007-03-24 13:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by thennngirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋