ok, i am the victim, my husband cheat me ,i was not in the country and found out when i came...he loves chating as well,but now when comes our baby too, my problem is that i can Not trust him anymore :((..our life start to be really ..not good at all ! what should i do special that he doesnt want to talk anymore about it ,he wants us to turn the black page and look to the future!
2007-03-24 06:34:22 · 13 answers · asked by paola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
usually there is a chance, but i am getting negative vibes from your words, you give the impression that your hubby is a womanizer
2007-03-24 06:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sahar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres always a chance, but it takes a very special person to forgive and forget and move on like nothing happened. There will always be a doubt in the back of your mind and when the phone hangs up after you answer, the feelings will arise or if hes late coming home one night, etc. Many have tried to make it work but extremely very few survive once the trust is damaged. Many have told me that their cheating spouse actually went on to more affairs after the promises to stop were made. Its what you can live with and if youre better off with or without him. If you cant then sue his loser a.s for divorce and everything youre legally entitled to. Good luck
2007-03-24 06:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your husband needs to know that you cannot move forward until you talk about it CALMLY. so that you can find out why, and forgive. The problem comes when you try to forget, and we do not have the capability to do that. So that is where the work comes in for those who have been cheated on. But you have to talk about it b4 you move forward and make things right. At this point it is up to him to prove to you that he can be trusted again, he has to start over with that, and he needs to understand that you can't just start trusting him in 5 minutes.....or tomorrow....or next week......he has to prove that. He needs to really stop chatting, because that may have been where this began. He needs to understand that he HURT you, and that you have feelings and emotions that you need to let go....and if he is a real man.....he will sit there and let you get it off your chest....but not in a ugly or mean way....he will get defensive....arguing will get you no where. He needs to give you a chance to say how bad it hurt you.....and if possible....counseling.....best of luck to you both
2007-03-24 06:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, theres chances to start over,first evaluate the sitution is he truly sorry or is he buying time or using you,is he abusive,is he willing to change truly,my opion is I would pray about it and ask God what he would have you do .2.Cheating hurts and it takes time to get over are you willing to forgive?Dont focus trying to change him continually change yourself to adapt to the situtation,always return evil with good even though its hard sometimes,Love conquers all and thats what it will take if you want to stay,But if he continues to cheat and wont change dont put yourself at risk.,and especially if he is voilent god does not desire us to stay in abusive relationships,or marital infedelity,its in your ball park do you believe God can change the circumstance,If you have a bible read 1 Corinthians 7 , I think you will find your answer there. Lisa
2007-03-24 07:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by God Child 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that once a spouce cheats on you, it is very hard for them to be fully dedicated to you for the rest of his or her's life. There is a boundry that has been crossed that can never be returned. True enough, some marriages can be saved. But for the most part, it is very difficult.
2007-03-24 06:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Shi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is oppurtunity after a cheating spouse. It may take a while to for them to earn your trust again but if you and your spouse work hard and want to save your marriage it can be done. But if he keeps doing what he is doing he isn't worth your time and you may have to think about moving on.
2007-03-24 06:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if you want it bad enough there is always a chance after cheating but you HAVE to want it really really bad.
2007-03-24 06:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by kit-kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he wants you to forget about his cheating and
start with a blank page...
It is your decision as to whether you are going to forgive and
forget, or divorce him...
2007-03-24 06:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There can be a chance but in your case it doesn't sound he is remorseful at all so the answer is no. You know this will end in divorce so do it now!
2007-03-24 06:44:34 · answer #9 · answered by inlimine99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u dont trust him anymore, u will NEVER trust or care what he said, so no point being together!
2007-03-24 06:40:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋