My boyfriend and I have been dating for 18mos. When we first met i was very upfront with him about what i wanted and did not want in a man. He agreed. A few months after that he started doing exactly what i told him i did not want in a man. Everyday i come home from work he has his friends in my house. I have to wait at least two hours for them to leave before i can unwind and get settled. I told them in so many ways but the right way not to come back. He allows it so they do. Everytime i bring it up we get in an heated argument. For some reason he dont hear me. He cant understand how this is tearing me apart that I cant have a normal home life and on top of that we dont go out, i have to beg for sex and a hug sometimes, and all he want to do is stay in our neighborhood. He wont get a job or go to school. He wants to continue to do the same things he has been doing since teen years. Dont ler me forget to mention he is the only child. What should i do???
2007-03-24 06:33:12 · 19 answers · asked by beautifulchoklitsista 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds to me like this guy is no longer worth it. I know you've been with him for a year and a half now, but if he doesn't listen to you, if he doesn't want to touch you... if he relies on you for money and doesn't even TRY in the relationship, it means that he's gotten to used to you. He's begun to take advantage of you, and that's really unfair to you! If he can't understand you, it means thta something has changed in the relationship. Although it might not seem like the best solution, I think you should break up with him. I think that your life will be better, and it will show him that he can't take advantage of people liek that!
2007-03-24 06:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OHHH MY GOD, SO MUCH TO TELL YOU .... OK WAIT...
AS I WAS READING YOUR POSTING I STARTED TO GET A BIT AGITATED. FIRST, YOU MUST WAIT ALMOST 2 HRS FOR YOU TO UNWIND???? THAT RIGHT THERE IS A HUGE NO F.........ING WAY. WHEN I LEAVE WORK TO GO HOME I MUST HAVE MY TIME TO UNWIND AND IF THE PERSON LIVING WITH ME IS NOT HELPING ME HAVE MY TIME, THEN WE ARE GOING TO HAVE A PROBLEM RIGHT THERE. AND IN TOP OF IT ALL HE GETS MAD WHEN YOU MENTION IT TO HIM??? NO WAY, THIS HAPPENDS TO BE YOUR HOME, A HOME YOU BROUGH HIM IN, AND HE IS NOT RESPECTING YOUR SPACE.
AS FOR YOU TO HAVE TO BEG FOR SEX, FROM A MAN THAT IS NOT WORKING, OR GOING TO SCHOOL?
OK NO NO NO NO NO WAY, YOU HAVE TO DO THIS, CHANGE THE LOCKS IN YOUR HOME, PACK ALL HIS THINGS AND WHEN YOUR READY TELL HIM TO LEAVE. IF YOU THINK HE WILL NOT LEAVE THEN HAVE THE POLICE EXCORT HIM OUT.
YOU CAN NOT HAVE A MAN THAT IS NOT PLANNING OR MAKING ANYTHING FOR THE FUTURE. IF HE WAS GOING TO COLLEGE OR WORKING OR BOTH THEN THINGS WOULD BE DIFFERENT, BUT HE IS HANGING AROUND THE NEIGHBORHOOD WITH HIS BUDDIES AND NOT MAKING ANY FUTURE PLANS FOR THE BOTH OF YOU AND TO MAKE MATTERS WORSE THE SEX IS OUT.
2007-03-24 13:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by ââ¢Â¥*~áƦ~NYSunrise~áƦ~*ââ¢Â¥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he is not ready to grow up..I think u need to break up with him.take some time for your self to unwind and go out with some friends and when the tie is right you'll find that someone who wants what u want in life..good luck..
2007-03-24 13:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by angie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he living with you now? Sounds like the case and you are essentially supporting him. You mention nothing good about him, perhaps it's time you kick him to the curb because it sounds like he's not ready to grow up anytime soon and doesn't have much respect to you. I'm going to guess he treated his parents the same as you and got away with it all those years.
2007-03-24 13:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is using you as a free meal ticket for everything. Tell him he has one month to get a job or he has to move out. Let him get his own place to have his friends hang out. You deserve better than to be treated as if your opinions and desires are worth nothing. Get rid of him. He is a loser and will not change. Take it from someone who has been through this.
2007-03-24 13:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by judirose2001 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should leave him because you told him what you wanted and he agreed, then the next day he does stuff you don't want in a guy, you know what you want, hes not your type so leave, there's more boys out there that are your type. Good luck!
2007-03-24 13:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by khadεsia. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him he is a bum, and you dont want him around, and you would rather be around someone who respects you and your house and contributes, and has some sense of responsibility, and a JOB, because survival in this world is about money, and you dont need to support a man.
2007-03-24 13:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by johnofthehills 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God - I thought I was reading "my life's story"! Dump him - he tricked you, he will not change, and if you stay with him you will be miserable. Being alone sometimes is so much more a happy place to be.......
2007-03-24 13:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a bumb! Get rid of him! He's not doing anything for you! And you're doing eveything for him! He won't even have sex with you! Just say, "Hon, umm..... BYE-BYE! Don't let the door hit you on the way out!" GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-24 13:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by Selleniah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him, if he isn't willing to give you what you want out of a relationship and not going to contribute to it then let him go and find a man who will have what you are looking for in a person.....
2007-03-24 17:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋