my close freind is using drugs...how can i help him stop?

Question

i am not sure if he wants to stop or not
all i know is that he is a good kid
he just got in with the wrong crowd and now is using drugs
how can i help him stop

Answer 1

It'll be hard to get him to stop.
'Best thing to do is just tell him what's going to happen to him if he keeps it up. Tell him to be careful before he ruins his life forever. Encourage him to stop using drugs.
If he doesn't listen, then just step back from it and let him figure things out on his own. It'll be hard, but you can't control his actions and sometimes we have to learn things the hard way.

Answer 2

What kind of drugs?

That is the first thing. Pot is bad enough for a kid, but there are much worse things to be into. Pot is easier to quit than crack or meth for example.

If you suspect he is doing drugs talk with him about it. You will know if he is not being honest with you. That is where you work from, his honesty.

He is in with a bad crowd. He might have to make a few decisions there.

When my daughter was 16 she brought home a stray boy. All her friends were weird but good students. This kid was shifty. I asked her what was up with this kid. He was someone she had known in Gr.8 who she had tutored in maths. Now he was all messed up on heroin. I am sure you know these tales.

I told her quietly to take him to tea at the local coffee house; I was not comfortable with him in my home. She told me she had just forced him to give her his stash and his works etc etc and he could call her 24 / 7. She is a very solid academic person with strong sense of social justice.

Anyhow finally he really blew it. The big house was ahead. She seriously went to bat for him and things were better. Nine years later he still calls her some times. He has his own business and is living a good clean life and will never go back. He credited her for his success because she cared and he did not want to let her down. It was never ever even remotely romantic, she is too smart for that. So you can help.

But you might have to go to school counsellors and parents etc if things do not change for the better. Better sooner than later. If you love him as a good buddy then go for it.

If you are the close friend you are asking about, then you know what to do. Get out of that group and find some more productive way to pass your time. If you are having problems, go and see your doctor and discuss your options with him.

Whether it is for you or a friend, help is necessary asap.

Answer 3

You ask a tough question. I recommend that get some one on one time with your friend and let them know how you feel.

You can let them know that you don't agree with what they are doing and that you are choosing not to be around that activity and that you hope they will see what the drug use is doing to them and your friendship. I don't recommend abandoning your friend as there will be a time that they will need you to be there.

The important this is that you don't let yourself fall into the wrong crowed and remain a person they can come to for help or to talk.

Answer 4

Show him that drugs will change his life. He will end up with no girl, no place to live, no life! Who would want to live like that??? Get him out of that crowd. It's the wrong place to be.

Answer 5

this is a hard question. but he is someone near and dear to you right? well talk to him show how much you care for him and how it is effecting you and your relationship with him(as a friend) and if he is a great friend as you say he will do his hardest to stop. and for the wrong crow you say he is hanging out with tell your friend that you think that they are wrong to hang out with. and maybe he will come back to you a changed guy just keep praying 4 him and soon he will stop

Answer 6

just continue to make friends with him. Listen more to his problems and give him good advices. He just needs somebody listening to him more than anything else. Tell him good or even great things about life, life's worth living even without drugs or any other material things. Show him more what really good friends are for. And for you... just pray and ask God to guide you. You can do it.

Answer 7

I would say...get him out of that crowd. Show him that he doesnt need them and that you are there for him. Drugs ruins lives...make him see that. And if it absolutely comes to it maybe take him to a councelor. These are very hard situations.

Answer 8

go to this website with him...http://www.brainsource.com/brain_on_drugs.htm

there are plenty more, but this just lists the effects of each drug on the brain and body.

if this doesnt work , try talking to an adult or try getting him off doing drugs by taking him somewhere instead of letting him hang out with these 'bad influences'

Answer 9

sooner or later someone else is gonna find out, and tell someone and it could get him in alot of trouble
tell him drugs arent the answer
and if he loves you enough to do that
he'll stop bc i had a friend die of an overdose
but if he cant chose tell him its me, or the drugs
hope he'll stop

Answer 10

sometimes though youre sourrounded by many beloved ones you still choose the wrong path . or sometimes destiny has choosen this to happen or he/she would either learn it the hard way or its your role as a friend in the whole thing to stop it!!!
one thing i am sure of your friend has some issues that made him go like that.
JUST REMEMBER ,YOUR PATIENCE , YOUR FRIENDSHIP , YOUR TRUST IN HIM AND ENCOURGING HIM IN EVERY STEP OF HEALING CAN HELP MAKE A DIFFERENCE!!!!
PS-dont abandon him