My best friend is great she is soo nice but kind of inconsiderate.Lately she has been making me depressed about myself.If i look good someone says she looks like a model if I have a gorgeous coat it looks better on her.If I like a guy he wnats to go out with her.She is also kind of only hanging out with me when no onee else is around which means when she is around all my other friends are hanging out with her.
What should I do I'm miserable
2007-03-24 06:12:36 · 33 answers · asked by Day Dreamer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She is currently toxic for you
You'd be best to stay away from her and find another friend who doesn't suck dry your self esteem
2007-03-24 06:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got a friend who did exactly the same as me she said all my clothes were crap and I looked like a butch lesbian! I am a married mother of 2 and straight. that was just one of the things she did there are many more.
This all happened this time last year. I now do my best to avoid going out with her and only do go when it is a wedding or hen night or something that it wouldn't be fair of me to back out of.
My other friends all know why I am avoiding her and they all understand. I wouldn't put up with it, no friend should put you down or make you feel bad - unfortunately there is always a b*tch in the crowd. Find some new friends at least then you will go out and have fun!
2007-03-24 06:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by dmbz2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I somewhat relate to your situation.
I don't think it's necessarily your friend's fault unless she's the one who is trying to get people to notice her and all that. Try talking to her and telling her how you feel. Maybe she could say something like, "Well, this coat looks nice on me-but it looks nice on my friend too." Or something of the like, so people will see that it's your coat and that you can look good in it too. When she's around your other friends and you feel a little left out, try and join in the conversation they are having. Sometimes just biting the bullet and taking a foot forward helps.
Don't feel miserable. Remember that you're just as pretty as your friend is-no matter what the people around you say. Give things time, she won't be the center of attention forever.
Good luck!
2007-03-24 06:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if shes your bestfriend it wouldnt be like that. Youll learn that people will come in and out of your life all the time but the ones that really matter will be thier later. Do what makes you happy and hang out with all of your friends. Tell her how u feel. Maybe itll change, maybe its not her that needs to change. If its your first real friend its going to be hard but if your feeling this way then maybe she not a real friend at all. And ask yourself to evaluate the entire situation, maybe youll find the solutions to some your problems.
2007-03-24 06:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by anonomous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let's get something straight. She's not making you miserable, you're making yourself miserable.
You need to work on your self-esteem. You shouldn't care about what other people say or think. Just learn to feel better about yourself. I know it sounds easier than it actually is.
If you still feel that she's the problem then talk to her. If you don't then you'll continue to be miserable and it will only get worse.
2007-03-24 06:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by All I can be is me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends don't want to hang around with you when she's around, maybe you need new friends. If they say all that stuff to you, get new friends that make you feel good and are true friends; not friends that treat you like backups.
2007-03-24 06:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by Susie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, You are to beautiful for her, she must be jealous of you, and very insecure, take her with a pinch of salt. Find yourself another friend who isn't as paranoid as this one. Bet there are loads of people near you that would love to be your friend. Don't let someone Else's actions and insecurities affect you this girl is just not worth it.
2007-03-24 06:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by kevina p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 'friend' who makes another friend feel miserable, isn't a real friend.
Try talking to your friend because she is not a model and no one is perfect so don't let her make you feel insecure about your looks. Be happy with yourself and enjoy life, i do!
2007-03-24 06:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by Want Your Bad Romance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you can either accept what's happening to you or talk to her about how you are feeling. If she get's upset, you might wanna look for a new friend.You can't have a friend that makes you miserable
2007-03-24 06:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by angel9242004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how miserable you are feeling you can't stop her for hanging around with your other mates because if you say i don't like you hanging around with me mates she might just take that as a offence and then stop talking to you , you do need to tell her because you can't be miserable forever and by the way i bet loads of lads don't like her only because she probs looks like an easy girl but have a talk to her one on one and see what happens
2007-03-24 06:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds to me like she is jealous of you and because of that is trying to make you change and feel bad hold your head up and let whatever she says go in one ear and out the other tell her how you feel and if she is not happy with that go your separate ways life is too short to have her upsetting you so much
2007-03-24 06:25:22 · answer #11 · answered by smiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋