My husband is going to deploy any time now I'm 36 weeks and the dr told me that I can do things on own that may help jump start labor like walking and sex, but nothing is working. How can I make the dr induce me before he leaves? He will be heart broken and so will I. Also I'm scared about him leaving and not being here for the birth I have a bleeding disorder and all my family is out of town... I could really use some help!! PLEASE!!!
2007-03-24 05:58:19 · 9 answers · asked by oxhawaiigirlxo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
sorry your still preterm no doctor will induce
have your husband talk to his command they may delay him leaving since you have no one close to help you dont count on this though
2007-03-24 06:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear this ....I spent most of my first pregnancy alone but my husband was home again on R & R just before the birth. I am sure that you are scared for many reasons with hubby deploying and a bleeding disorder and on top of this no family around.....being scared is normal for every one of these situations but to have them all at once will just magnify your feelings. A forces wife is a special breed and have an inner strength that civvies dont necessary possess. They have to cope with situations that their civvie counterparts do not, and usually in geographical areas that are berefit of any family members. Does your husbands squadron/platoon know your situation...this is where your best support will come from. The very people in the same situation can bring the best support for you at the minute. Appeal to any family you can that you are in need of them, contact any wives support groups within your husbands regiment and resign yourself that your baby will be born only when it is safe to do so....forcing the issue at the risk of your infants health and your own is not the best course of action no matter how heartbroken you or your husband think you may be...imagine how you would feel if things go wrong. My heart goes out to you both but having a healthy baby should be the most important priority to both of you at the minute...not forcing a child to be born 4 weeks ahead of time so your husband can see it before he leaves....4 weeks will make a difference to your childs health and development, in fact just one week can, does your husband really want to risk his childs health so that he can see it born...ask him what his choice would be....as a parent all decisions made are with the childs well being as a priority and you may as well get used to it cause the more we love them the more we can suffer for our love but it is always worth it in the end!!...I wish you both well and a healthy baby..xx
2007-03-24 06:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by Sunrise 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The military has a program for moms like you that allows for free doula services for labor and delivery. Yor Dr wont induce at 36 weeks unless there are complications. Maybe Dh can ask for a deferment of a few weeks until the baby is born. That would be at the discretion of his C.O.
2007-03-24 07:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by chellyk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~hugs~
The docotrs are there for you. You could ask someone to tape the birth for you in the hosiptal.
Or ask some neighbors to come and other friends or coworkers?
Im sorry, i know what it will feel like...well im 32 weeks pregnant but yeah.
I think you should tape the birth or ask someone you are close to to come along with you.
Be strong dont worry. When the labor is all over, you porbably wont even be thinking about your husband, only your beautiful baby!
Good luck :)
2007-03-24 06:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by Pursuit of Happiness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got sick and tired of being pregnant I just kept on going up to labor and delivery complaining of cramping, well I think my doctor got sick and tired of it and induced me. But I was full term. Maybe you could talk to your doctor. I know if you were at least 38 weeks they wouldn't have any problem.
Maybe someone could tape the birth if he wants to see it but cannot attend.
You need to think about your baby's health, but talk to your doctor.
Good Luck and I hope everything works out.
2007-03-24 06:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by Nisi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately the doctor wants what's best for the baby, and inducing it may not be in the cards. You want that little one to be 100% fully developed and ready for the world.
I'm crossing my fingers for you that things work out and your hubby is there to support you during labor! And may god keep him safe while he's gone!
2007-03-24 06:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. My situation is the same. You could always try black/blue cohosh, but I will warn you. If you do not consult a homeopathic doctor or someone that knows about how to take it could cause a hard labor and other complications. The black cohosh causes contractions and the blue cohosh regulates them. You can get it a GNC.
2007-03-24 06:43:04 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not want to have your baby at 36 weeks. that is too soon. The baby could have serious physical health problems developmental delays, etc. I know you want your husband to be there, but I'm sure your childs health and saftey is more important to you than your emotional discomfort.
2007-03-24 14:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by **0_o** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try rasberry leaf tea and lots of sex with nipple stimulation. Above all, you have to be relaxed first. I'm in the middle of a deployment now, and my heart breaks for you. My second baby was born while her dad was away. It's hard, but we do the best we can. Good luck to you.
2007-03-24 06:10:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋