how do u get over somebody who breaks your heart when it hurts so bad?

Answer 1

Here's my favorite remedy for a broken heart ---

The pain will only be felt if you think about it. Solution: Do NOT think about it.

It's hard not to think about it. Solution: Play games on the Internet --- games that need concentration like crosswords/ sudoku/literati/etc. Your mind should be kept busy with new challenges.

New hobbies...new friends...that would all come later...BUT first your mind has got to be re-conditioned (to think of other stuff)...if you mind has been cleared, then your heart has been cured.

Give it a try. Good luck.

Answer 2

It is very hard. The first thing is to accept it through acknowledging all your feelings. It is ok to cry, to discuss it with friends, over and over if necessary, etc. It is a process of recovery IMO that must be handled in a delicate manner. And you are entitled to feel the way you feel. Try not to cling to false hope however that they will come back to you. That would be tortureous in the long run. If you find yourself getting withdrawn more and more you should seek counseling, which probably would be a good thing. Objective observations are always great. Ultimately you must forgive the person who broke your heart, because in that way you open yourself up to better things, and frankly I believe this: if you are capable of great love, the heartbreak is equally great if the relationship fails. That is very good actually because you will love again. It does not seem that way now of course, and being rejected hurts, especially when you have made yourself so vulnerable. But love is the greatest thing in the world and it is not for cowards! You will get through this if you allow yourself the time to feel, and process, and acknowledge.

Answer 3

I am so sorry. Romantic break-ups are often the most heart wrenching and painful experiences we can go through. Even more-so than a death sometimes, because the romantic partner is still alive for you to be reminded of continually.

Time helps, but won't always heal the wound unless you work on things through that time. Surround yourself with positive and supportive friends. Involve yourself with activites you enjoy. Read some great self-help and recovery books. Maybe get relationship counseling to help deal with your greif. If you like sports or exercise, get involved with more of that to keep you busy.

More than anything you want to stay busy. Also, very important, try hard not to blame yourself. There are valid reasons things don't work out. Many times it has so little to do with us, as it has to do with the other person. Realize that each experience teaches you somehting important about yourself and about relationships too.

Most of all, love and respect yourself. I used to spend so much time beating myself up when a relationship ended. I would add to the hurt by what I would do to my own self. Listen, they already hurt you once, why keep letting them hurt you by missing out on other opportunities to be happy in life? Even if you feel miserable, pick yourself up and move forward. Look your best and try to remain positive. Nothing worse than laying around in your pajamas listening to sad music and beating yourself up about what you should have done-said, etc.

Funny enough, even though it hurt so bad inititally, I found that my recovering did wonders for my self esteem and worth. I got so much stronger and met some great new friends along the way. And, to top it off, the person that broke my heart would often times come back into my life after I had moved on by living a life well lived. At that point, I would answer the door and see them there with thier feeble eyes, and say to them" uhhhh, who are you"? Slam the door...buh bye!

Good luck. Hold your head up. You WILL get through it!

Answer 4

Any type of break up is hard and it hurts. You will get over that somebody in time, so give to yourself time to feel sad and hurt, it is OK. Then start doing the things you like to do. It isn't easy at first, but doing stuff that makes you feel good about yourself will help you. Friends are great to hang with and start to laugh again. Sometimes it will feel as though you took three steps forward and four steps back, but in time there will be more steps forward.

Answer 5

It takes time - I know, it would be nice if there was a quicker answer but really - in time you'll get over it. It will help the process go faster if you have no contact with the person and don't dwell on thoughts of the person - remember things in a realistic way, don't choose to remember only the good stuff.

Answer 6

This is never easy and it takes a great deal of time to get over the pain of such a loss. Surround yourself with loving and supportive friends and family members but try not to dwell on your situation. You've experienced the death of a special relationship and it hurts like hell but you will survive so have faith that there really is a beautiful rainbow at the end of this tormenting storm. I wish you well.

Answer 7

About all you can do is let time work its magic. It will hurt for a while and then gradually get easier and less painful. You will also start to think more clearly about how the other person was and what they did, instead of through the eyes of love.

Answer 8

You need a lot of time to heal, friends n family support.. and most important of all-money. With money, you can go for a trip where you can relax or get to know more friends. It wont buy you new love but it let you have a good break rest.

Answer 9

Only time can heal the wound. Occupy yourself with things that are fun and meet lots of people from both genders. Don't rush into another relationship again even though that would actually hasten the healing process; depending on your personality.

Answer 10

Spend has much time with family & friends.You eventually learn to live with the pain then you will move on.I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better all I can tell you is in time you will be okay.Good Luck