This guy has bullied me since middle school and we're halfway through high school now. I was called over the intercom into the office to talk to the counselor since I had said I wanted to switch classes. She wanted to know why and he was one of the reasons. He was spoken to about bullying when he was called into the office a little later. People suspect something bad happened w/ us and he might know that I told. I think this guy's out to get me. What should I do? I'd like to hide for about 10 years! Worse - he goes to my church so we see each other 6 days a week sometimes!
2007-03-24 05:31:34 · 9 answers · asked by 77684 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
if he goes to your church, speak with your pastor and see if maybe he could talk to him. if it's continuing at school, speak to the principal or counselor again. you don't have to live your life this way. and just curious, what is his reason for bullying you for so long?
2007-03-24 05:36:26 · answer #1 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would encourage your parents to call his parents or better yet talk to your pastor at church, see if he would arrange a meeting with the bully without letting the bully know you will be at the meeting as well. At the meeting have the pastor let both of you know that he has "heard" through the grapevine that there was a problem. Encourage the Pastor to not let on that it was you who came to him. While in the meeting express that you respect the bully but do not understand why he is targeting on you, that you would really like to put all this behind you and move on. The last resort is switching schools. I'd hate for you to have to do that, but sometimes drastic change is necessary. Good luck. God bless.
2007-03-24 14:17:55 · answer #2 · answered by Shyler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what has this guy been doing to you? And has anything happened since he was called to the office?
You did the right thing in telling someone, and the school should sort it out. If it continues, then don't hesitate to ask a parent to speak to a teacher.
As for church, its unfortunate but all I can suggest is you either ask your parents to switch churches, or just ignore him when in church. Theres not much he can do in a church.
And by the way, whoever said: "if it is a boy doing it to a girl it is sexual harrassment." No offence, but it is not neccesarily sexual harrasment just because of the genders. Unless he is touching, talking or even attacking you etc in a suggestive way I wouldn't call it sexual harrasment.
And I think Mace is going a little too far.
2007-03-24 12:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by Take A Break. Eat A Cookie. 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you get more people involved. This is very serious. If this idiot goes to the same church, I suggest you and your parents see the pastor and have him/her talk to this kid and his family. Then, your parents need to have the school do more. Bullying is very serious and if it is a boy doing it to a girl it is sexual harrassment. Get some guy friends to walk you around school and don't go places alone if possible. Carry spray mace in your purse and learn self defense. You really need to get your parents involved in this so that it is a parent to parent thing too. This kid needs to be stopped before he becomes a physical abuser too. Don't be afraid of him. He wants you to be fearful, that makes him feel powerful. Take care.
2007-03-24 12:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask your "pastor". The leader of your church is someone that you will be able to talk to, and it is even better that the bully is already in your church.
The only reason why people bully is becasue they are insecure. They think that by putting other people down, they will look better, what they do not realize is that it only makes them look like an ***.
2007-03-24 12:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by Rocka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's one defense: if you think he suspects you mentioned his bullying, and he attempts to bully you, say to him, clearly and with very plain talk: I've already reported that you are a bully when you are around me. Do you really want to get nailed for bullying me now? I've warned and there won't be any questions about it - so if you really want to bury yourself in a heap of trouble, go ahead, ******.
You can't run and you can't hide. But you did speak up and bullies rely on people being silent.
2007-03-27 13:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show him you arenot scared if your scared of him he will no.stand up to him thats the only way yu can stop this from happening.in my view violence is the way to stop this,maybe he will learn.start going to karate classes to boost your confidence while around people,stay with a group of mates and then he may not be so fond of trying something.if you want to hurt him then take not of this.kick him in the balls hell go down so quick,poke him in the eyes he wont be able to see for a bit or you can punch him in the throat if that dont work carry a torch to school with its not an offensive weapon but used properly will hurt.if you need to use it hit him in the stomach with it in the solarplex or o his colloar bone.ant other tender places that will hurt hit him with it.thats how i would deal with it but im not like you so i dont no.
2007-03-26 07:15:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a report at a local precint and maybe
switch to another high school. Seek an order of protection.
2007-03-24 12:36:36 · answer #8 · answered by lizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents, maybe they can talk to his parents or the school principal to keep him off your back.
2007-03-24 12:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋