Time does not heal all wounds...!?

Question

A relationship suffers, someone tells you time heals all wounds. So you chuck it up to experience. Has the relationship been restored? Not hardly. Therefore the wound still exists. You are just taking a pain killer to temporarily forget temporarily about the issue. But your soul and spirit will never let it go. If the relationship is not restored, the "bone" is still fractured, and still needs to be reset! But knowing how and when to apply the appropiate medicine and how to reset the bone aren't something we all know how to do. I'm still searching for that answer. I know that many of you would just rather move on and forget about it. But the problem of seperation between you and the other person still exist. You have not fixed the problem. You have blatantly ignored it!

Answer 1

No, time doesn't heal all wounds, but time sure does make it easier to deal with. Lose someone you love to death and you will forever think it won't. But time does help.

Answer 2

Not all relationships are meant to last. You are right, time doesn't heal wounds, knowledge, understanding and acceptance do. Usually in time you gain that knowledge and understanding, but if you don't you will hurt forever. If all you do is harp about the past and want to go back to it, you will never move on. You have to except that the relationship is over. Figure out what went wrong and try again. This time trying to avoid what happened the first time. If it was something you did (like you were extremely jealous) you need to work out your self confidence before getting involved again or you will repeat the behavior. Sometimes nothing went wrong, you just didn't get along. Your personalities were too different. One key to a successful relationship is knowing who you are and what you want out of life and finding someone with similar interests, so your personalities compliment each other. Another one is don't make an issue of everything, not all disagreements need to be worked out. We are all different and sometimes you just need to except that you won't always see eye to eye.
Respect is also an important one. You have to respect each other, or it won't work.

Answer 3

Wounds do heal, but that doesn't mean that there's no scars where there was once a wound! You will always remember...

But you are right! To make a relationship work after being hurt once, or twice or three times we have to start working on the things that were missing before we were hurt... It takes A LOT to forgive, and forgiving takes much more than 3 words... It is possible though... I know it is!

Answer 4

Literally time does heal all wounds that is treated,
but when you talk about relationships and break-up
you're talking about the wounding of the heart and
that takes a lot longer to heal, but with determina-
tion on the person's part and the will power even
a wounded heart can be healed.

Answer 5

it looks like you are one of those people that like to hold on matter what if you would let go and move on time will heal all wounds,but on the other hand if you stay in the same place and keep that spot between you and the other person open than yes it exist but you can close it by forgiving and forgetting and moving on.

Answer 6

This is a little hard to comment on with out knowing more details about the relationship. In any relationship that ends it's always better to have closure - that doesn't mean you have to restore the relationship, if the relationship could be restored it probably wouldn't have ended - but it's good to have answers and understand why it ended.

Answer 7

this is a loaded qustion life throws some bad stuf at us and most of the time we can't think why this happen to us /me
my mom passes when i was 2 years old im 40 now my grand parents done a fine job of raising us i did not see my dad till i was 17 he has passed also and im in my frist marriage with a three year old and going thru a devorce i love my soon to be ex wife but we just fuss so much / we cant get on the same road ! i'm not sure if this is a good thing but if you love something set it free if its ment to be THE BOTTOM LINE IS WE CAN'T SAY WHY THIS STUF IS HAPPENEN BUT GOD IS FORGIVEN AND I'M NOT DOING RIGHT MY SELF
BUT JUST KEEP DOING THE RIGHT THING / BE NICE BE PATINCE BELEAVE IN GOD WE CAN'T DO THIS ON OUR OWN GOD BLESS GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

time does heal all wounds, BUT we still feel the pain some time after a break up, especially if we really cared for the person.

"move on" doesn't necessarily mean we have to chain ourselves to another person right away, but we DO NEED TO GO FORWARD... otherwise, we are doomed.

i haven't ignored feelings over my last relationship -- and it took almost 2 years for me to find the ability to move on and even date. it's not really "emotionally safe" to dive into another relationship right after you break up.

and i didn't.

we all need to take the time to recover...

hugz

Answer 9

Is there a question in there??? And what you say is true. ALL bad wounds tend to get worse if you ignore them. If something has happened in your marriage or relationship that hurt this badly, then you have to really work to heal it.

Answer 10

That's not really what the adage means. If you're balanced, ten years down the road you shouldn't still be raging with fury at your ex. As time goes on and you get on with your life, slights become less and less prominent. Getting on with your life is the key to forgiving. Anything else and therapy is recommended.