help my homosexuality?

Question

hi, im sexually confused and for the moment i think im bi but there could be the chance that i could be fully gay. The problem is i dont want to be gay. I know all of you out there are saying hey theres nothing you can do about it so just enjoy life but noone understands how much i dont want to be gay. its the last thing i want and if i discover i am gay i will do everything in my own power to try and change it. is there really psychologist that can help you change your sexuall orientation and if so could they help me cure my homosexuality problem?

Answer 1

joe dallas did it, and now he has a ministry dedicated to helping others.

Answer 2

"Help"? "Cure"? "Homosexuality problem"? You've got alllll wrong, my friend. However, you are right when you say I'm going to say, "There’s nothing you can do about it so just enjoy life". Well, at least you're partially right -- there IS something you can do about it: You can go on in a never-ending state of denial, and live a sexually repressed life for the balance of your days ... or, like predicted we'd say, you can just enjoy your sexuality the way nature intended, in your particular case. Whichever alternative sounds most appealing to you, choose ... I know what mine would be.

Furthermore, yes, you can spend tons and tons of money visiting a psychologist who will, at the end of the day, only have talked a good game. I doubt very severely that arrangement will be effective either way; what I don't doubt is that not only will you become a great deal poorer because of it, but you’ll more than likely find that your life won’t be any more fulfilling, or significantly better in quality – in fact, that may only work to your detriment. Nevertheless, if that option also sounds appealing to you, then be my guess.

Answer 3

You are in a very confused time and you need to find out why you are so against being gay. There are many communities right now that will advise you on how you can relinquish your gay thought and tendencies. Exodus International, Global Alliance and many other Ex-gay activist groups (Google Ex-gay) are out there and will help you deal with your situation, but I will warn you now that they might not tell you what you want to hear. Ask any of them if the feelings will ever stop. None of these places can say that your feeling will stop. They will tell you it can be suppressed but it will never stop. The American Medical Association will state that it is unhealthy to try and rid yourself of your feelings but as these are feelings there is no reason to act upon them. Also American Psychology Association states “A human beings can not choose to be either gay or straight. Sexual orientation emerges for most people in early adolescence without any prior sexual experience. Although we can choose whether to act on our feelings, psychologists do not consider sexual orientation to be a conscious choice that can be voluntarily changed” It is up to you if you want to act on the feelings that you have but in any event you should talk with a professional about your feelings. No one has to know what you talk about when you go to a professional they are required by law not to say anything.

Answer 4

Mike, we've all been there...and no you can't change your orientation. The most that you can do is lie and end up hurting some woman terribly 20 years down the road..when she finds out that you are having gay sex on the side..Not to mention what that will do to your children. You will learn to accept this side of you. Everyone is different in their sexual makeup. Learn to like yourself and who you are..It will get better. No psychologist or anyone can help you with this...you have to help yourself...and/or find some good people to talk about it to.

Answer 5

You got it precisely right when you wrote "The problem is I dont want to be gay."

You hate something you see in yourself. Probably not just that one thing either. Psychologists MIGHT be able to help you with that. But homosexuality is not an illness; it can't be cured.

Now, there are people (even some with degrees or ordinations) who are willing to take years of your life, tons of money, all of your dignity, to mess up your feelings about yourself even more... but they have never cured ONE of the masochists who have submitted themselves to their "kind mercies".

Answer 6

hun homosexuality isn't a "problem" and neither you nor any real psychologist/psychiatrist will be able to "change" you. you are who you are, and eventually you will accept it. I had a friend that was at the same point you were. he knew he was at least bi, but when he tried dating girls he got nothing from the relationship so he just accepted that he was gay. trust me, it was not easy for him. there's nothing wrong with being who you are. if you ever need a friend just email me :)

Answer 7

Yes there is a cure for homosexuality and homosexual behaviour, some sympathetic psychologists will treat it as a sexual addiction, with amazing success.

Answer 8

I've had the same problem for years! It's horrible, I know.... because there are soooo many disadvantages in life, when you are gay.... it's sad, but I think this is our fate.........
However, if you really want to change it (but I advise to accept it), you can try hypnosis.....

Answer 9

sorry if your gay then you are gay .
don't live a lie and marry. thats the last thing you need to do.
its not fair on your partner, they have a life also.
also how old are you ? you may be passing through a stage,
in the end you will always resort back to same sex relations, just dont hurt anyone down the line,

Answer 10

Well try a phycologist first, then you can go out with a boy, then a woman, and see which sex you enjoyed most. If you don't want to be gay, just stop thinking about boys, hang ut with boys that are not gay, and maybe syou should stop hanging out with girls too much.