How do you get over the loss of a friendship esepcially when you feel its unjust?

Question

I've been friends with this girl for about 12 years. I have helped her through divorces, surgeries, arguments with other friends, etc. Never once have we fought or even had an argument. Recently I had become growingly aggravated with her because I felt like she was not there for me when I needed her to be. We had a mutal friend that I had bonded with and we agreed that we would vent to each other about this person so not to her her feelings. This mutual friend decided to tell the other friend everything I ever said about her out of anger and now my friend has cut me out ofher life. Not to mention that what the other girl said was just as bad if not worse than what I said, but they are just the best of friends now and I am nothing. It hurts after all we've been through and I just can't seem to let it go. Any ideas????

Answer 1

if you talk about someone behind their backs (instead of taking what's aggravating you to them) then the person has every right to be upset, even end a friendship over it. Why be friends with someone who, when your back is turned, is going to dis you?

To let your friend know that what you did was wrong (and that you should have come to her when upset with her), and to let her know that that other person said rude things about her as well, write a letter and send it to her that way. Be sure to write on the outside (or subject line if email) 'read at your convenience'. This is letting her know that she can take her time and be upset for however long she wants, you're respecting her feelings.

If anything, it sucks but you do lose some. Drop them both and the girl will find out the hard way about her new "friend".

good luck.

Answer 2

I suppose she's just deceided to move on, but why say the disliking opion but lets just say it is her lost for time being.