Was alcohol a factor causing your divorce?

Question

Who was the drinker, you, your spouse?

Answer 1

Yes - my ex was an alcoholic and drug abuser.

I knew this when we met, but I naively believed he would change . We were together for a total of ten years. I insisted on separation when our son was almost 5, because his child care provider noticed how he had changed from being very social and outgoing to withdrawn.

My ex never went for help, and instead he got worse. He lost me, his job, time with his son, and eventually his life. He was 39 and our son was 7. More than 8 years have passed since his death, and I still think of him often and how our lives would have been different if he had been able to fight his disease.

It has been difficult for my son, but one good thing that has come from it is that he is not drinking and getting high while many of his peers have started already.

Answer 2

Alcohol was a big part of the problem but it wasn't the reason that we divorced. My ex was a drunk and then the drinking stopped and then AA. He became a dry drunk. He was worse sober than he was drunk but actually nothing had changed. He started controlling me and my children. I felt like I was in prison and could not escape. I had a miserable life being married and it's hard being happy when the other person was never happy about anything in life. We finally divorced after 25 years. Thank the good Lord that there is such a thing as divorce. I was finally released from hell. I am now married again and doing better with this marriage.

Answer 3

Yes, spouse was an alcoholic in denial( he just liked the fun at bars or he just needed it to relax or it is no more than a beverage).
No violence but he used drinking as a passive aggressive way to establish and maintain distance from me and our son.
Eventually he used it as an excuse for adultery---I am an infrequent social drinker and he wanted a full time drinking partner and found one.
Through empathetic talks with his mother, I leaned that his father behaved the same way.
I consider myself lucky that I got out of the marriage before he brought home a STD or killed us all in a DUI.

Answer 4

My fiance was an alcoholic but he hide it so well it took two years for me to find out. That was during Easter dinner when he was cooking, got blasted, and couldn't finish the fixing.
After apologizing to my family (in a left-handed, third-person fashion), he claimed he was drying out. But I started finding vodka stashes all over his house, business, even in the car.

The last straw came in two events.
We were having dinner at my Mom's place, and he poured a glass of apple juice. If that was "apple" it was some HARD cider! He got very defensive and walked out.

A week later, the second event involved his habitual grass habit. In my state, getting caught with more than an ounce in a vehicle means confiscation of the vehicle. When we first met, he'd promised NEVER to carry in my SUV. To make a long story short, I caught him sitting on my tailgate toking on a joint the size of a Cuban cigar.

That was when I ended it. Thank goodness we didn't marry!
Over the next year he telephone stocked me. (I admit I let it go on too long, but I also knew he was, otherwise, quite passive.) Once every three or so months, weird slurred calls that started with his beloved dog dieing or his mother was gravely ill and ending with his begging me to take him back. I finally told him that the next call would bring a court order to his door. That stopped him cold.

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Answer 5

Yes the spouse was the drinker she drove me crazy in my own head LOL . I would rather be around a person that smokes weed then a drunk any day of the week ,year century, day of my life. Drunks just don't have any purpose here not only that they stink.

Answer 6

yes.. it is one of the factor. my spouse.
When drinking become intensive.. and always drunk,cannot be contactable. Wont be home till next day late morning or afternoon.when back. complain of hang overs with headaches yet complain the kids is too noisy he cannot rest on that day. Request me to bring the kids out so that he can rest???? he just cant be bother to spend the weekend with hisfamily but hang overs n alcohol. He not worth for me to grow old with him anymore.

Answer 7

yes, drinking was a factor for my divorce. not the cause mind you. It was my escape from the sadness and depresion my marriage caused. It was not the answer to the problem. It was a coping mechanism for it. It took alot of time to heal from that. And I am not technically divorced yet. LOL These things take forever.

Answer 8

YES!
Ex was/is a severe alcoholic, physically abusive, emotional terrorist, self centered loser.
He would stay out all hours of the night, ignore his children, accuse me of infidelity, steal the house payment money, utility money. 1 DUI and 3 totaled vehicles later...I left.
He chooses not to contact the children and pays minimal support...owes my over $27,000 in past due support. Plus stopped making payments on his car...so I had to pay it off at the tune of $14,000.
What the hell was I thinking?
I REALLY thought he would change if I just loved him enough.

Answer 9

alcohol was the problem with my divorces and my husband drinks to much now and he did then and plus he was unfaithful...somehow when you are drinking things look better from the drunks point of view..the second husband did the same thing...so i do not go to bars or very seldom but definitely not someone to spend the rest of my life with..i was married to my first husband 25 years and tried every way in the world to make it work...he is of course today a worse drunk than he was back then but i am no where around him...

Answer 10

I drank a lto during my first marriage, but now that I am on my second marriage, I am on the road to recovery. One day at a time. But she makes it a lot easier for me because She makes me so happy I don't need to use the alcohol as an escape.