how to throw away unwanted thoughts from our mind?

Question

plz suggest how to throw away unwanted thoughts from our mind permanently?

Answer 1

You can't actually permanently forget an experience or thoughts that you don't like, but you can use coping mechanisms to "replace" those thoughts.

If the thoughts make you angry or sad, do something relaxing. Meditate, read a good book, watch a good movie, etc.

And realize that persistent thoughts tend to fade over time. The best thing you can do is not worry about your thoughts (assuming your thoughts are about something that you can't fix, etc.)

Since you didn't really specify what your thoughts were I am just giving you a really general answer. I hope it helps though.

-Best wishes

Answer 2

First site referenced:

First, picture a scene that brings up wonderful, comfortable feelings, and that makes you feel good about yourself. Imagine the scene in terms of what it looks like, sounds like, smells like, and feels like. For example: You are on a beach. You see the sand and the water; you hear the waves beating against the shore; you smell the salt water and feel invigorated, yet calm. The scene you imagine doesn't have to be a true experience. The important point is that whatever you picture makes you feel good. Every time one of these unwanted thoughts occur, yell "Stop!" in your mind or out loud. Yelling, "Stop" immediately breaks the thought cycle. Then substitute your positive scene, replacing the negative thought that makes you feel badly about yourself with a positive thought that makes you feel good. The scene will leave your mind but the good feelings will remain.

Second site referenced:

Yell something sharp and loud and jarring at yourself to interrupt the flow of stressful conversation. Try words like, "Stop it!" "Enough!" "Cut it out!" "Cool it!" Use a forceful voice to really grab your attention. (Obviously. It's a good idea to do this when you're alone, otherwise you may alarm your family or co-workers!) Practise it in your car, in the shower, or when you're home by yourself. Try it for a few days to get the full impact. Then gradually quiet the messages until they're silent.

I use the phrase, "That's enough, David!" when I catch myself with unwanted and unpleasant thoughts. Another phrase in vogue these days is, "Don't go there!" Anything's fine, as long as it stops you in your tracks.

One of our hospital nurses taught me this variation. Place an elastic band around your wrist and, when you notice upsetting thoughts, snap the elastic gently - for impact, not pain - as you say, "Stop it!" or "Enough."

Three tips here: make sure the elastic band isn't too tight; snap it on the back of your wrist (the hairy part), not the sensitive underside; and don't pull the thing back like a slingshot to give yourself a huge welt - a small gentle snap is all that's needed.

Thought-stopping, however, is only half the story. If you use the technique and then sit there in a vacuum, the unwanted thoughts will likely return. So the second part of the exercise is to use some form of diversion or distraction.

This can be a form of "thought substitution" where you purposely start thinking about something else - pleasant activities for the weekend, who to invite for lunch, or gift ideas for an upcoming birthday. Or you might think about your next vacation or the trip you took last summer.

Thought-stopping and thought substitution are especially useful if you waken at night with thoughts about work and have trouble shutting off the voice. This is where the elastic band works especially well (Rather than yelling "Stop It" and scaring your bed partner half to death!)

If you can't get back to sleep, just lie quietly and think relaxing or pleasant thoughts. One of my favourite images is lying on the beach at Paradise Island in the Bahamas, seeing very clearly in my mind the white sand, the turquoise-blue water, the bright sunshine and palm trees waving gently in the breeze. It's a restful picture that helps me drift back to sleep.

Another way to keep unwanted thoughts from recurring during the day is to use some form of physical diversion. Pick up the phone and call a friend, grab a magazine or read through your mail, turn on the radio or TV; have something to eat; do a crossword puzzle or focus your mind on something stimulating and challenging.

Answer 3

The question is a bit vague, in terms of whether the thoughts (unwanted or not), need to be addressed - for example if the thoughts were fearful - for example, being afraid that someone was going to break into your home... then addressing these fears by installing an alarm etc would be helpful.
If you are sure that addressing the thoughts, giving them attention, would not be helpful (for example thoughts of self-doubt etc) then although it is not really possible to prevent unwanted thoughts from coming to your attention, rather than indulging the thoughts, or giving your attention over to them, it is possible to acknowledge the thoughts but to move on from them. After a while, the unwanted thoughts should present less often, and you will become quicker at recognising them and moving your attention to thoughts about something else.
Meditation techniques are useful in this regard. : )

Answer 4

Sounds like you and your fiance need to have a good talk and decide if you really want to be together. Unfortunately this happens in most relationships so don't feel like you are alone. Most couples get too comfortable with one another and start doing things in each others presence that you never would have dreamed of doing while dating, like using the bathroom in front of one another. While some will say it's no big deal I think it's things like this that start to chip away at the romantic side of the relationship. Don't get me wrong. I'm not suggesting you need to wake up 2 hours ahead of him so that when he wakes up you're already finished taking a shower, getting dressed and have your make up on, but who are we kidding when we start walking around in ratting pajamas with morning hair and breath and not expect the romantic flame to flicker a little. As for the other guy, he will be no different from your current fiance once the two of you have been together for 6 years so all you would be doing is starting over with a new guy only to end up in the same situation.

Answer 5

They will get worse if you try to stop them. Everyone has thoughts that are unwanted. All you can do is acknowledge them and let them pass. Don't beat yourself up for them, that makes them come back worse.

Just say to yourself "I had a bad thought, everyone does. it doesn't make me a bad person because I thought this. It would be bad if I acted on this thought, but I'm not going to." Then the thought will pass.

The more you do this, the less you will find yourself thinking of the thought.

Answer 6

It depends what kind of unwanted thoughts you have.

If you think you have unwanted thoughts that's the first step to stop those thoughts because you are aware that you do not want to think that otherwise you would not worry.

If you are worry about those thoughts you should feel good with yourself because you have good moral and ethics background.

Are thoughts of not normal sex desire? Or Do you want to kill someone? Or trying to rob a bank?
Then follow some of the other good answers to avoid them.

First step to do good is to recognize you are doing something wrong.

Answer 7

In my opinion you are completely in control of your mind and trying to force thoughts out is quite counter productive. I believe one has to relax to control the mind, the tension does not help much at all.
Although, I don't think you can completely throw away a thought, I do believe you can control your focus to a large degree. Also realize if it is something traumatizing or shocking it will be much more difficult to forget about and "throw away".

Answer 8

Frontal Lobotomy. Then you can be an unthinking beast that follows whatever primordial programming that runs in the cerebellum and brain stem.

Or you can cherish God's gift of rationalty which allows you to evaluate those thoughts and discard them of your own volition as you see fit.

Responsibility for your own self is a hard job- it's God's challenge to you as a human, don't try to pass the buck.

Answer 9

By not trying to think abt the unwanted thoughts.

Answer 10

are you asking about un-wanted thoughts, or un-welcome memories...?...thoughts are 'rationality' in action....memories are life in review....and dealing with each calls for different techniques.

If 'thoughts' are what you want to throw away, try finding some alternate interest, inspiration, endeavor, undertaking or attention focus...

If 'memories' are what you are trying to throw away, the act of forgiveness plays a tremendous roll in how successful you will be... not just forgiveness of others,..but forgiveness of self..