I want to get over him and not want him back. He broke up with me and never realy gave me a reason why. So I was hoping some of y'all could give me reason why I shouldn't want to be with him. He no longer speaks or looks at me even though I see him nearly everyday. He's acting like a jerk but I still love him. i know he wants nothing to do with me, he has told me he dosn't love me and "us" will never happen again. How can I force myself to believe that hes really no good for me?
2007-03-24 04:25:16 · 18 answers · asked by Simple Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
straight and honest answer: he said and implied he doesn't love you anymore.
so move on, girl. life is so good. God has better plans for you, seek for a better future.
If he truly loves you, he will find his own way back to you. If he doesn't, then stop pushing yourself towards him, for sure God doesn't want that to happen to you.
Accept the good and bad memories you had with him, and start closing that great chapter of your life you spent with him. It had happened to me, and i was able to move on.
I understand it's hard at first, but you'll be able to go through it.
How did i go through it? i focused my attention on myother strengths and blessings.
I engage on sports activities - badminton.
I meet new friends, until i decided to be into another relationship (that was when i was ready and had moved on.
So be strong, have faith on yourself, move on, you can do it. If he never loves you, there are still other people who love you, God, your family, and you future man.
Be patient in waiting for your new guy, God has a better plan. Have faith. Get excited. Be happy!
Life has better things to offer. God bless.
2007-03-24 05:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, You have already told us every good reason to get over him..that is every reason that's in your head. But your heart tells a different story. You say you know he wants nothing to do with you anymore and that's the deal breaker right there. You don't want to face that fact..and the heartbreak that will follow...but sooner or later you will have to accept the truth & the truth has a way of coming back around untill you face it. You don't want to give up on the love you had..but it's already gone, I'm so sorry, but it's one of those things in life that happens to all of us..we have to say goodbye to the things & people we love. But you need to put your hope in something new..there is a guy out there who is right for you & will love you in a better way that will last, hopefully for your whole life (marriage) ..this isn't the end just a new beginning ..ok? I'm wishing the best for you..ok? bye
2007-03-24 11:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by Danica Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine if you had a bestfriend and your friend was getting treated the same way this guy is treating you...how would that make you feel? angry right! So when you see him just think of those mean things that he has told you, and you'll be over him within a month or so depending on how long you were with him. Also, go on a date, make him JEALOUS, wear sexy clothes, don't make it be too sexy, but reveal a little cleavage, let your legs show, and show him your over him, even though your really not, let him think it...he will be right back at your feet, but DO NOT let him back in! Guys always want what they can't have!!!!
2007-03-24 11:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by courtany_06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that YOU'RE BETTER THAN THAT and you need a man who'll stand by your side, not just up and leave with no reason. For all you know he could've been cheating on you and wanted to leave the relationship first before you found out and broke up with him. Look at him realistically. Note his flaws. See he's just another guy. No one is perfect, so it's not like you're in search of another "perfect" man. You'll find someone else, and when you do, you'll wonder why you even wasted your time pining over this guy who wants nothing to do with you.
2007-03-24 11:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jay M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he has told you that he doesn't want to be with you and that he doen't love you so maybe you just need to except that and go from there....i know where you are coming from my exhusband of 10 years just decided to leave after all those years with out giving a reason why, and i did the same thing but after about 6 months of second guessing myself i told myself that it was his loss and that he could never have US back again, plus i had 2 small children that i had to take care of so i had to pull it together.
He is not good for you that's all you need to tell yourself and he so doesn't deserve your love and caring because he is a jerk and you will soon find that you are much better off w/o him no matter how much you love him.
2007-03-24 12:14:55 · answer #5 · answered by kaciekae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult when we don't get the answers or the closure we need after a relationships ends. The best advice I can give is to not allow yourself to dwell on someone that is not worth your time. Obviously this guy doesn't care enough about you to just be honest with you. If you continue to chase him or push for answers then you are just giving him another chance to reject you. Aren't you worth more than that?
2007-03-24 11:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by love2breal2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the pain first hand. Baby girl only time can heal that wound it seems to me that you really have feelings for him so it isn't going to go away just like that. The best thing for you to do is try your hardest not to see him and even when you do look away don't get caught up in the lust. by next time this month you will be saying"WHO?" So honey you will be alright.
2007-03-24 11:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by cheeky G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eventually ms. you were one to believe that love hurts,and that's so far from the truth. Look at yourself in the mirrow and learn to love yourself rather than love someone who is'nt intent
on loving you.no one should be disrespected in anyway,but you wil continue to be disrespected if you allow him to do so;he's not hurting you,you're hurting yourself by desperately longing for someone who does'nt want to be with you. You think that you're in love.....but you're not;you're in love with the thought of being in love. I went through the very same sickness when I was cunfused about love,love does'nt hurt at all ms. it's the greatest feeling in the world,once you've found true love you'll look back on all this and think that you were once deranged
2007-03-24 11:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by carolinablue6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember he is showing you his true feelings i know it hurts
but every time you want to go back think of the pain he caused your heart. Do what i do
when someone that you love dearly dies you love them and have good and bad memories about them
let him be dead to you in your heart. Then the healing will begin
2007-03-24 11:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by kelly7214@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he will not tell you why you are over should be reason enough. Communication is one of the biggest foundation pieces in any relationship. If he will not communicate with you it gives your relationship little ground to stand on.
2007-03-24 11:29:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋