yesterday after a brief encounter with my husband which turned ugly after he refused to discuss our situation however i did manage to get a couple of my feelings out and for the first time he said he would think about giving it a chance...he drove off in a huff but not even 30 minutes later he was texting me and by the end of the day he came by and i even got a kiss on the cheek am i reading something into this? i'm so confused by his actions, he said he really hasnt had a chance to think about us. i really do want to be friends but not just when he wants to. any suggestions?
2007-03-24 04:00:55 · 12 answers · asked by MIMKA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mimka, I know what he is doing seems confusing, he's probably not sure what he's doing.
See if you and your daughter and son-in-law can make a place for you for awhile. Agree to a time, if you can.
Consider allowing your husband to establish himself in the apartment. You've been in close quarters for awhile and I would not be surprised if all he needs is space for a little while.
Continue to keep communication open and non-judgemental. Treat him with the respect you expect from him.
Do some online searches and find something part time to get you out of your girl's house a bit and generate an income for yourself. Think about what your part of the partnership will be contributing when you join your husband.
You two have been together a long time. He must love you very much. Relax, breathe, he sleeps well at night knowing you are safe, let him have his space.
2007-03-24 12:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, you are just seeing what you want to see. I'm going to give you the BEST advice you could EVER get. Hire an attorney NOW. IF there is any hope of your husband coming back to the marriage, the attorney will "scare him straight". He'll quickly realize exactly what he is doing. If he doesn't, then you will be giving yourself the BEST possible chance to come out of this marriage in the best possible shape financially. It's win-win for you. Do it now.
Seriously, right now he thinks he can have things entirely his way AND if, after he has his fun, he wants you back then it will be on his terms. Your new attorney will start filing for things like support, division of property etc. Once he starts to see ALL that he is going to lose AND has to start thinking about things like hiring attorneys, attending hearings etc., sometimes things change VERY quickly for the better. Good luck.
2007-03-24 11:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he has a thing for running away whenever there is a problem. I would suggest counseling. He says he is willing to think about ya'lls situation, why not? You guys need to discuss all things in front of another person, a willing ear so to speak. :P Try it out, it's worth saving your marriage isn't it?
Good luck and have a great day!
Kristy
2007-03-24 11:10:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What? Friends? This is your husband. And it seems to me that he's made an effort to mend the damage of the brief argument. Give him time to think about the situation and then bring it up calmly when you are not arguing.
2007-03-24 11:06:37 · answer #4 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Speaking from a mans perspective I would would tell you to be careful. He might just be using you as a fall back. Meaning he wants his freedom but also wants you not to have the same. Test the waters carefully. I may be completely wrong and he really wants to be with you he just might have some anger issues he need to deal with.Good Luck
2007-03-24 11:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by hncbaxter 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes he loves you i think you may have hurt him in some way .If you wont to be friends then stop talking or as us guys say nagging about your problems we herd you the first time . Guys get along so well because we say something once and that's it woman go on and on until you have us going crazy in our own heads . Life is to short to stay upset about the same thing over and over get over it .
2007-03-24 11:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now that you were able to say what you wanted, keep your lips firmly together and let him think about it and come to you. Don't say another word until then. When he does want to talk do not dwell on what you have already said, going over and over on something well not help. Good luck.....
2007-03-24 11:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he has interest in someone else and that is why he contemplating as to if he wants to be with you and give up his freedom or chance to be with this other girl
2007-03-24 14:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by Chyka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not much to go by, so I'd say that you should give it some more thought. However. Don't stick around if you KNOW you will be unhappy forever.
2007-03-24 11:06:26 · answer #9 · answered by E 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nagging isn't going to help. You stated how yu feel and now the rest is up to him. Just be yourself and friendly when you talk and meet.
2007-03-24 11:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by celianne 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋