Im 17, going to be 18 in may. Im not for sure yet, but i have this feeling that i might be with child. I have a loving caring boyfriend of 2 years, and we are still going on strong. My mother is loving, but sometimes i think she pushes me to hard. my dad is caring, but he can be aggressive with his words sometimes. My boyfriends family is amazing. they are loving and supportive of him, and they enjoy me being around as well. Im nervous to talk to my mom, what about what ppl will think? I wanted to continue on with college to become a Nurse after i graduate in May. What should I do, has anyone ever been in this position before? Please give me some advice.
2007-03-24 03:45:52 · 13 answers · asked by Ash 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Once your parents get over the initial shock of it all, they will accept it. Don't expect them to love the idea, give them some time to adjust to it. They will come around and will probably get really excited. There is no reason you can't still go to nursing school. In fact I would suggest you go to school as much as you can before the baby is here and then continue while your child is still young. It will get harder to do when the child gets older. Home pregnancy tests are pretty accurate, you should take one before you get to stressed out. The stress of not knowing could delay your period. A lot of people are having kids a lot younger now, my sister had her son at 18, and she has handled it well. I also know a few more women who had children young and they have very successful careers, but none of them are still with the father. Good luck, don't worry about what people think, and your parents will come around.
2007-03-24 03:55:11 · answer #1 · answered by huntersterlingsmommy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I got pregnant when I was 17, and I now have a 3 year old son. I am finishing my senior year at college and getting ready to go to Medical School. It can be done! If in fact you are pregnant, don't let anyone tell you that you can't go on with school and your future. It makes it hard at times, but a lot of women do it. Luckily, you have a boyfriend who sounds like he will be supportive. I wasn't so lucky with that since he decided he wasn't able to be an adult yet. Wait to see if you have a missed period, take a test if need be, and go on from there. Your life will not end, you will just have a new set of challenges in your path. I wish you the best of luck, and if you have any other questions or need to talk, my e-mail is on my profile.
2007-03-24 11:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by Mia1385 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all find out for sure if your pregnant. Now, I think you can do this, people do it all the time. Your folks won't be jumping for joy over this and neither will his; because having a child at any age complicates things. It will make it harder for the both of you to finish your educations and get started in life, but it can still be done. You just have to work harder. I would also like to tell you that you shouldn't worry about what other people think! It's took me a lot of years to realize that what others think of you has little to do with life. The only thing that matters is if you can live with the choices that you make and if you are right with God. I wish you all the luck in the world, and remember to be patient with your parents, your their little girl and they love you. It's hard for parents to see their children grow up faster than they feel necessary. Also it would probably go alot better if you and your boyfriend talked to your parents together as adults, so they will see that you are not freaking out or acting like children. I think this will help things go more smoothly. Good luck and God bless!
2007-03-24 11:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by Texas Pineknot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you start worrying about what your parents will say or do...take a pregnancy test! If you are pregnant you need to go ahead and tell them since the stress isnt good for the baby OR you.
Its great that you and your bf have been together for 2 years but lets be honest. The issues you have had to deal with are NOTHING when it comes to being married with a baby. I'll be the first one to say that being married (got married when I was 23 to a 29yo hubby) is GREAT but when a baby is added it changes everything.
If you are pregnant you dont need to worry about what people will think. Talk to your parents and realize that they have dreams and expectations for you purely out of love and how much they care for you and will initially be in shock. Heck, my dad has never been the kind to tell me how proud he was...when we told our parents we were expecting AFTER being married for 2 years my dad was in such shock he didnt he talk to me for 2 hours. I guess it makes them realize you're growing up.
While your bf's parents are supportive I'm sure even they might have reservations at first about you two starting a family.
Bottom line....take a test.
If you arent pregnant be more careful.
If you are pregnant, surround the two of you with a great support system, it will take alot of hard work and determination but you can get thru college and nursing school. Good Luck!
2007-03-24 10:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by GAjen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too had not one but two children before I was 20. I wasn't married and was also scared and worried about what my mom and dad would say. To my surprise they were behind me 100%. Like others have said, don't worry about it until you miss your period by more then a month, then I would be concerned. Get a pregnancy test at walmart. Don't go cheap. It should cost you around $10-$20. These are fairly accurate. You will have lots of support, more then you can imagine and it's a wonderful thing to be a mommy!
2007-03-24 10:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by Franky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a pregnancy tester or visit a clinic to get tested. For all you know, you might not be. If you are, you'd be better of telling your parents sooner than later -that way, they'd be able to plan ahead of time to help you out.
If you are very much loved like I spos, it won't change much about your relationship (they might just need some time to absorb it.) -But the earlier the better.
As for your education, you can either start and take a break half-way (I don't recommend that but for time's sake, you know). Or wait till the baby is born, recuperate, nurture the kid and then you can get back in school/college.
You prolly aren't pregnant. But take the test or visit the clinic regardless. You'd know what to do from there.
Much Respect
SliQ
2007-03-24 11:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by sliq 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a test first there is no sense in worrying if you are not pregnant. If you are then you need to figure out what you want to do. Adoption, abortion, or keep the baby. Any decision you will make you will have to talk to your parents. I got pregnant with my son at 19 and my husband and aunt told my mom and stepdad. Then we all sat down to talk about what I was going to do.
If think you will need some support talk with your parents. Talk to your boyfriends parents, a aunt, older cousin, and/or you and your boyfriend sit down and talk with your parents. It will be more comfortable for you to talk if you have others there.
If you are not pregnant I suggest getting some birth control so that you can avoid this scare again. Good luck to you
2007-03-24 11:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jade 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have a baby doens't mean you can't go to college. I am a single mom of 2 little girls, age 10 mo and 2, I go to work and go to college FULL time. It is really hard but I do it and still get good grades. You sound like you will have ppl to help you along your way. I do all this alone with no family and their dad is little help. Just talk to you parents about it when and if you are don't worry it will be hard but you can you anything you put your mind to!
2007-03-24 10:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by Mandy R 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about it until you know. If you don't have $10 for a pregnancy test from the drug store, get the money from your boyfriend.
If you aren't at least two weeks late for your period, don't even bother taking the test. It can give false results if you take it too soon.
Why would you want to cause this kind of grief in your life before you even know for sure?
BTW - If you aren't mature enough to handle this situation, YOU SHOULD NOT BE HAVING SEX! Sex is for adults, and you clearly are not there yet.
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2007-03-24 10:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Mom you know she loves you so she is a good person to go to if need be. You can get a test on your own and then know for sure. Have a friend with you, for support. If you are pregnant have a serious talk with your parents about what is going to hapen in the future, what your plans are and how you're going to make them happen once this child comes. If you're not pregnany, please, please, please use birth control, that way you dont have to go through this again.
2007-03-24 10:56:31 · answer #10 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋