I been married for 26 years. My husband cheated on me once before and I told him that if he does it again I will leave him. I am living overseas and two months ago I had to go back to the States for open-heart surgery. He came to be with me on the week of the surgery but he was disappointed that the surgery got cancelled. Five days later he left me and came back overseas although he could have taken me with him to go back home. I went home five days later and I notice things have change. He is very critical of me and our daughter for some stupid reason. I also found some evidence that he is in fact cheating on me again. My daughter is graduating in June and I could leave after the graduation but I felt so sad that I been married to this man for 26 years and dedicated my life and career to this marriage and in the blink of an eye it's gone.
We all still lived in the same house and just trying to be civil with each other. No more hugs. Kissed me on forehead for goodbyes.
2007-03-24 03:15:58 · 17 answers · asked by missyuraina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's time to move on. It will be hard at first......but in the long run....you will realize that you are better off and start a new life for yourself.
2007-03-24 03:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by Felicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not stated the real cause of his indifferent attitude towards you.What do mean by '"cheating"? In what form was this? Why does he have to cheat? Why is he critiical of you and your daughter? You have got along with him for 26 long years and still a kind of harmony and adjustment is lacking. This means that there is a serious flaw in this married llife. You are good. Some may say the same thing for him.It is just that you are bad for each other.
Under the circumstances, both of you would be better off if you got rid of him and she got rid of you. Go ahead, and lead a new life. It is better to do that than sulk over a relationship that is so stale.
2007-03-24 23:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's made up his mind already. After living through a divorce that I forced, you will survive. Divorce can really suck, hopefully the two of you can stay friends for the sake of the children. Everyone looks at divorce as somekind of negative. My Ex -wife and I are still good friends. My children realize we are happier being apart, and no more fights. So, unless he's willing to work through the rough times, maybe it's time for you to move ahead with your new life. And I gaurantee you will love again.Just make sure the settlement is fair and equitable.Once the decision has been made, move forward as soon as possible.The sooner you do, the sooner you will become stronger, independent and happier.
Good Luck!
2007-03-24 10:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by MARK S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as your daughter has graduated and moved out to start her own life, then yes. I would leave and start a new life with somebody who appreciates you. I admire the fact that you have stayed together for the sake of providing your daughter with a stable environment. I am proud that unlike most people, you put your daughter first and your own happiness second. But now that she's grown and about to venture out on her own in this world, it's finally time to do what's best for YOU. Sounds like you deserve it!!!!
2007-03-24 10:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm walking experience though starting over is very hard. I'm still unattached but very much happier. Call up a couple of girlfriends and go out a bit. Have your own circle of friends that way it wont bother you that he's moved on with his life. You not joined to him at the hip. Get your own love and life and enjoy it. Good luck and all the best.
2007-03-24 10:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by Ari-ah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his heart is bad and he has a nice, healthy life insurance policy you should stick around until he cacks it for maximum financial gain. As for the basic human need for affection, find yourself a black stud for your outside activities. They like white women, they're too stupid to cause you any real grief and there's a good chance that you'll catch syphillis and pass it onto your husband which could hasten his demise.
2007-03-24 10:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by Disco Mudda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should divorce him but that's up to you he should of been there for you since you had open heart surgery you don't need to put up with his cheating you gave him one chance so if you get proof he did it again you should leave .one of my sisters had open heart surgery a few years ago her son also was killed in a accident car or truck
2007-03-24 11:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is too bad. Try not to dwell too much on what is gone, but on moving forward. After you heal from this, you will love again...with someone who won't cheat! Good luck:)
2007-03-24 10:20:24 · answer #8 · answered by Li 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should. It's time for a new life. Don't look back. I wish you all the best in future, most of all love and understanding.
2007-03-24 10:25:13 · answer #9 · answered by vdt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you can't trust him. Have you tried marriage counseling? If he won't go, or that is not an option, I think I'd divorce him.
2007-03-24 10:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by Tom B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋