2007-03-24 03:07:21 · 44 answers · asked by mona 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why did you marry him then? give your husband a little respect and get a divorce. it's not fair to him. let him move on with his life. i'm afraid you really messed up.
2007-03-24 03:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What made you feel as if you have fallen out love with your husband. Look its simple either he is not paying you any attention any more or you are just not satisfied with your sex life and you are wanting to try something new. But keep in mind the grass is not always greener on the other side. Write a list of the things that made you fall in love with your husband and the negative things now. Which one will out weight the other? Have you tried given the marrige your all ? Last thing if you give the relationship your all when it does not work you wont have regrets.
2007-03-24 03:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by Slightly Naughty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, a lot of women fall into that dilemma. If you knew you didn't love him, then why did you get married in the first place? Anyways, before things get any worse, maybe you should just tell your new husband that you feel that you made a mistake getting married and that you'd like to separate or have the marriage annulled. That way, knowing that you love someone else won't force you to cheat on him or anything and give him a reason to "hate you" more.
2007-03-24 03:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by Answer Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I would consider if you have slept with this "other" person that you love. If the answer is "yes" than I would say that your marriage is over anyway. Trust is vital in any relationship, and if you step out on your husband, he won't be able to trust you again. Your marriage will be in a downhill spiral. In my opinion, though, if you just got married and are already having thoughts of infidelity, then you were never truly in love with the man you married. No matter what you chose (Unless it is to be a loving and devoted wife), you are going to hurt your husband. If anything, please do not cheat on him behind the scenes and pretend to be married. Either love him or leave him.
2007-03-24 03:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by wishywashy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think I would have married a man that I dont love. I would have broken it off. I would tell your husband that you made a mistake in telling him yes and you shouldent have led him on like that, and your verry sorry you didnt mean to hurt him. And be with the man you truely love. But only do that if you feel you really cant make the marriage work. And you know the other man is truley the one you want to be with!!!!! I hate to see people inx this sort of problems. I hope this maybe helped you!!!! Good luck!
2007-03-24 03:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How unfortunate for your husband, to be married to someone who doesn't truly love him. I'm wondering why you married this guy if you love another? Did you marry because the other man is not in a position to ever be with you? In my opinion, if you want this marriage to really work, forget about the other man, as difficult as it may be, & concentrate on your marriage. Give yourself time & if you don't want to be married any longer, then at least you can say that you tryed.
2007-03-24 03:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you married this guy, if you were in love with someone else. You shouldn't have married anybody. Sounds like a very immature thing to do. Didn't you understand the seriousness of getting married. I guess you need to have a very serious talk with you husband. Sounds a little selfish to me that you would do something like this to someone. Good luck.
2007-03-24 03:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you really need to do is just give it some time. Everybody has some doubt after they first get married, so this is probably what you're experiencing. Just wait, enjoy your marriage, and if you still feel the same in about a month or two, talk to your huspand about it: that's the most respectful and honorable thing you could do for him, and he should respect you, no matter what happens. Good-luck!
2007-03-24 03:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult situation. I can kind of relate to this but i have never been married but have had the same problem with trying to decide between two guys. If this other person your in love with doesn't feel the same way about you then stay with your husband.You need to just forget about this other person and stay with your husband besides you married him. Good Luck!!!
2007-03-24 03:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by emochick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, maybe the first question u should be asking is, why did you marry him in the first place? Why didn't you marry the one that u loved? But then since you're already there i mean you are already married then maybe you should give it a chance. Who knows you may fall in luv with your husband now. Just make it a try. Goodluck to you!
2007-03-24 03:52:31 · answer #10 · answered by Aleks W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be some reason why you felt the need to marry him.Try to remember what that was.
Marriage is a big step and you are just starting that journey.One physical attraction to someone else is not worth breaking up your marriage or someone's heart.
2007-03-24 03:14:03 · answer #11 · answered by sharen d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋