What if her mother,sisters,friends,cousins,neighbours all have high paid jobs though much less qualified than her and want her to work also? Besides her husband also wants her to be busy in a job. But she is quite happy being known as somebody's wife,mother,daughter etc and really isn't interested having an independent identity or income.
2007-03-24 02:44:03 · 56 answers · asked by VILAS S 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
By no manner of means she is a fool. It is her decision and it is a damn good one. If the circumstances do not call for it, why should go in for a job. If she feels that she can do a lot at home, it perfectly fine. It also depends upon the talent and personality make-up.Some do extremely well outside the home. But if you neglect home, then everything may go haywire.
2007-04-01 00:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Even if you are not religious or a Christian, read Proverbs 31. You'll find things like 'her children will rise up and call her blessed' or 'her husband is known in the city' or 'her husband also blesses her and trusts her'. Where on earth would we all be without dedicated mothers? I'm not saying you have to stay at home to be a dedicated mother, but you do have to make sacrifices. And some of those sacrifices for some women are to stay at home. By the way, who cares if your cousins and sisters, friends, and mother want you to work a public job? More than likely, they're just jealous about something that you have. It's not their life you're living, it's yours. "Her husband also wants her to be busy in a job"? Last time I checked, raising kids keep you busy. I'm not a mother but I'm an aunt and this lively 2 year old is enough to keep me busy! If the income is a problem, consider a job like selling Avon or Mary Kay or a small job on the side. Counseling would be a good idea for you and your husband to figure out what each person's expectations are, and a good way to compromise and reach those together. Also, a stay-at-home mom DOES have her own independent identity. And her income? Well, it's her children's well-being. Good luck, sweetie!
2007-03-24 04:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by chocolatelovergirl 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am compelled to answer this because no woman who raises a family from home is a fool. If she chooses this life style who the (beep) is anyone else to say she's any less of a person, or contributor to society, or doesn't have her own identity etc., etc., Many women are good at this job, and yes it is a job 24/7, and furthermore any of these women are quite capable, if they desired, to get out in the work force outside the home and be just as competitive as any woman out there or man for that matter as well. These women are taking a hit these days because it's not P.C. but I can tell you that they certainly do contribute to society and are as much an influence on today's society as any "working woman". They are as intelligent, as independent in some cases, and each is a separate identity.
2007-03-31 17:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a housewife doesn't mean you don't have a job. A lot of people seem to think that cleaning and cooking comes natural to a woman. In truth, women learn these traits from their mothers. Being a housewife is a skill that is aquired through practice and education, even if it is not formal education. Because there is a misconception of what a housewife does and where their skills come from, people overlook the importance of these people as being just as beneficial to the economy as the person that actually gets paid for work. Essentially, housewifery is her job. So the only fool here is the one who doesn't believe that housewives do anything useful or that she is somehow jobless.
2007-03-27 09:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by nicoleblingy2003 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, she is not a fool
Maybe she does not have the right energy to work. We are not machines. Mothers have a great deal of responsibility. It could be that she does not want more. Or that her health could not take more. It is important that she maintain her health. You do not want her to become ill. Don't forget the straw that broke the camel's back!!!
What is all this stuff about the importance of having an independent identity? People speak of wanting to be independent, free, un-attached, liberated ..... and I suppose that if you had all these things and no family, you would want a family? Why not just let God be in your life and let things be?
Peace & Love
2007-03-25 03:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's unfortunate that SAHM's are undervalued and that children are treated daily like cattle...rounded up and shipped off to daycare. I don't think that working outside the home has as much to do with income as it does with status. And if any husband doesn't think his wife is "busy" at home, then he's the fool.
I am so grateful that I'm able to stay at home and raise my children. I worked for a while and then realized how much my bunchkins need me....much more than did the manager...so now I work out of the home. I am fulfilled through employment (I'm a photographer) and fulfilled throuh my family. My family IS my identity.
2007-03-24 04:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being a SAHM (stay at home mom) is the hardest, most rewarding job in the world. Not only is the work 24/7, but you don't get paid cash!!! You're a doctor, policeman, maid, chef, teacher, referee, chauffeur and the list goes on and on. To even suggest the word 'fool' is an offence to me and every other hard working mom out there. Tsk, tsk...
I applaud this 'american housewife' you are speaking of. Bravo, bravo!!!
2007-03-24 03:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off; (mothers and housewives, you will agree with me); being a house wife is a job in it's self, cooking, taking care of the kids, mabye even home schooling (which is done if my family) cleaning, paying the bills, and much much more, When a person asks, "Why don't you have a job?" It really gets me upset, because running a household, being a good wife and taking care of your children is the most rewarding job I can think of, you don't get paid with money, but instead you recieve love.
So the answer to your question is no, she is not a fool.
2007-03-24 02:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by Casey Lynch 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm a housewife and I'm not a fool. I also plan on writing more books to make money and my husband has allowed me to study online classes once we go home to his country. I will of course be a stay at home mother as well when I have children as that is my major job and role in life.
2007-03-24 07:07:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as she's truly happy, that's what matters. But I wonder why everyone is telling her to get a job or to find something else that keeps her busy?
Is she taking care of herself physically? Or is she smoking, drinking, over eating, not excercising enough? Does she take time with her appearance, grooming, hygiene?
Is she taking care of herself emotionally? Is she finding her own ways of meeting her emotional and social needs? Or is she bored and anxious to talk to people as soon as they walk in the door? Is she just sitting around on the computer or in front of the TV? Or is she involved in activities with other homemakers? Is she participating in the school her children attend? Volunteering at the convelescent home?
having a job, even if it's volunteer, gives a person a sense of self worth that is generally more highly appreciated than the role of a homemaker which is often taken for granted by those who come home to her. a job allows you to become aware of your own undiscovered skills, strengths and capabilities that neither you nor anyone around you knows you have.
happiness is truly rare and very precious, and often times just a false screen that hides our fears and failed attempts. maybe your loved ones notice something about you that you are avoiding and they're trying to help you.
but no, there's nothing wrong with being a homemaker. it's a tough job.
for mother's, feeling guilty about staying home is just as strong as feeling guilty about going to work.
2007-03-24 03:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think she would be a fool at all! The most important job there is in this world is raising children to become good, honest adults. A woman who is happy and fulfilled being a mother, wife, daughter, sister is a special woman who finds the needs of her family more important than making big money and having a title. I think she should be proud of what she does....no amount of money would be salary enough for a stay at home Mom. They are on call 24 hours a day!
2007-03-24 02:54:31 · answer #11 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋