I was talking to a nice college student from where I am living ..and he and I were talking about the people in the area where we are...and I asked what they are like mostly, and the conversation went further...(and he seemed rather nice.,..ya know low-key) and he mentioned along with the conversation that he is NOT always nice(he's nice at his job)but he isn't always that nice...is basically what he told me....to which I said, but, everybody has a different side to them..and that is perfectly normal...I understand that....I am not always "nice" either...I have my moments, like everybody else...and nobody can be "nice" ya know like 24/7...that is ridiculous..but, just by how he looked at me, after he said what he said.....I got the distinct feeling there was something a bit heavier on what he "would" have meant....do you know what I mean?
SO, was he warning me? I don't know this guy....but, I thought that he was okay...as a friend(possibly)....what about this?
what do you think?
2007-03-24 02:32:17 · 8 answers · asked by ladyk 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Coulld be one of several things:
1.He's just very down to earth and tells you too much information about himself being honest.
2.He doesn't want you to think he's a pushover just because he seems nice at work.
3.He's really trying to warn you that he's got a dark side.Probably not this one but he probably looked a u when you said what u said because he was also wondering what u meant by you weren't nice all the time either.
2007-03-31 02:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's a tough one, but until you find out more about him and ask him what he means, anything else is conjecture. While it is true, our "gut instinct" about someone can give us information, until we check it out, we do not know for sure. I believe it pays to be more direct in situations like that. You might ask him the next time (perhaps jokingly), what did you mean that time you said...See his response.
We cannot assume what the heavier part is when he looked at you. The problem with all of our communications is that what we interpret or receive from a message is often about us and not just the sender. Until you actually get more details from him, you can only assume that there is something heavier or darker about him.
Unfortunately, that means that you will have to take a risk but it may only be a slight one in getting to know him a little more, just talking to him a little more. Then, you will know whether he is someone with whom you want to become friends. Good luck! (I hope I don't hear this guy tortures hamsters or anything)
2007-03-24 09:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by Gretta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just do the obvious and ask him what he means by "not always being nice"? Why are you wasting time trying to second guess what he means? You basically told him you were the same way. So, until you find out how he defines "not nice" you will just agonize over nothing.
2007-04-01 09:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol let's put it this way - do you have a shotgun at home? no seriously watch out for any weird behavior on his part - if he follows you around or you keep seeing him places you wouldn't expect to see him - but then again maybe he was just hitting on you and all he meant was that he has a 'naughty' side
2007-04-01 00:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by Basil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be 2 things-
1. hes dark side is, really, bad.
2. he dont know himself and the perspective all people got different sides scard him.
in both case stay away from him.
2007-03-24 09:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by janne5011 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut feeling when he said what he said to you..I would keep a distance with him until you get to know him better..Like public places etc...Don't tell him to much info right away about yourself.......
2007-03-24 09:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
woman's intuition is a beautiful thing....use it.....if you are asking this type of question, you are ALREADY doubting him and you just need someone to confirm what you are truly thinking.....good luck
2007-03-31 20:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by fxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is just okay he doesn't know about himself properly.
2007-03-24 09:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by sumaira_900 9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋